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Would this put you off going?

15 replies

Sunny94 · 07/05/2024 23:19

I think it’s putting me off but I feel bad about it as he seems really nice. We’ve been talking for a while. We went to same school but he is a couple of years older. Arranged to meet him on Saturday. He’s now seeing his daughter that day but says I can come along. That’s to the park and for Costa afterwards. Would this put you off going?

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AGodawfulsmallaffair · 07/05/2024 23:23

Yup! That’s not a date, that’s childcare.

Babybreath · 07/05/2024 23:24

Yes

BobsVegBurgers · 07/05/2024 23:26

Wait, have you ever met him before?

whatsitcalledwhen · 07/05/2024 23:29

Decent parents don't bring their children to dates with women they barely know. Or introduce them at all, until the relationship is definitely going somewhere serious after a sensible length of time. I wouldn't want to date someone who was a parent but made decisions that don't prioritise their children's wellbeing. And also who don't want to invest a few hours if their time one on one to get to know someone.

ScrollingLeaves · 07/05/2024 23:32

Sunny94 · 07/05/2024 23:19

I think it’s putting me off but I feel bad about it as he seems really nice. We’ve been talking for a while. We went to same school but he is a couple of years older. Arranged to meet him on Saturday. He’s now seeing his daughter that day but says I can come along. That’s to the park and for Costa afterwards. Would this put you off going?

Yes, it is completely inappropriate that he should be bringing you along so soon and so casually. It is thoughtless both in regard to his daughter and to you.

BobsVegBurgers · 07/05/2024 23:34

I'm guessing this is a new dating situation. The fact he would happily introduce you to his child so soon is so irresponsible. Complete turn off and I'd run the other way if I was you.

coxesorangepippin · 08/05/2024 03:00

Well, yes it'd put me off

Thevelvelletes · 08/05/2024 03:13

And his ex will probably go ballistic about daddies new friend..why would you get mixed up in this.

Queenfierce · 08/05/2024 05:27

To soon for the child to be meeting you I wouldn't be comfortable to go in this situation

ineedtostopbeingdramaticfirst · 08/05/2024 05:38

Yes it's inappropriate to meet him and his child at the same time for the first time.

And concerning he doesn't realise that.

determinedtomakethiswork · 08/05/2024 06:24

That's not a date! Why would you or his daughter want that?

Beezknees · 08/05/2024 06:28

Yes, it would. He shouldn't be bringing his daughter on dates, any decent parent wouldn't do that!

Nottherealslimshady · 08/05/2024 06:28

A young child? I'd think what a shit excuse for a father introducing women he doesn't even know to his child.

An adult daughter? How fucking awkward, no thanks. Might aswell bring your mum on a first date.

LarkRiseSummer · 08/05/2024 06:30

You really need to ask?

Doingmybest12 · 08/05/2024 06:36

I re read your OP to check if you were school friends so he'd kind of picked up the friendship and skipped a few stages because of this. But no you weren't friends. He might be a nice guy but he lacks critical thinking skills and common sense. Also zero effort involved. So it's a no from me and its not a date of any kind. Its a no from me.

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