To think is doing this on purpose

[Waitingforyourlove7]

My daughter late 20’s eupd and asd ocd traits has currently been waiting for a bed in a place of safety to be transfers to a psychiatric unit. She wet herself the first night she was there they asked me to get her clothing. I asked why she just said she was desperate. Then I’ve been told today she’s done it again. Aibu to think this might be on purpose? Urine sample has been sent to the lab and she has no uti symptoms.

It sounds like she might be doing it because she is anxious or for attention

How can anyone here comment?

No one wets themselves for no reason, it’s humiliating and I detect an undertone of blame in your post. If she has ASD it could be due to the change in routine, she could be anxious. Considering she has several conditions and what sounds like an unsympathetic parent it doesn’t seem like that big of a surprise

Do the staff have any suggestions? They’ve probably seen this before.

Possibly attention seeking or to let you know something is wrong or anxiety/nerves.

Could even be as simple as she feels uncomfortable getting out of bed to go to the loo? New place, new people - might be a bit scary if she’s already in mental health crisis.

She could be too scared to go to the bathroom? It's unlikely to be 'on purpose'. Are there nurses with her?

I think it's unlikely she's doing it on purpose. It's embaressing and I imagine super uncomfortable. Could she be struggling to ask to go for the toilet? Or because it's not clean or she maybe has a lack of privacy? Also if she's in a place of safety awaiting admission she is clearly struggling massively mentally and that might be contributing. Or new meds particularly sedating ones.

But even if she is doing it 'on purpose', there's obviously a reason behind it. Maybe she desperately needs to see you or a familiar face or some sense of normality and this is the only way she knows how. I don't think you can 'judge' her based on societal norms right now.