To think this much contact is NOT nice and is OTT?

[SENparent96]

I still have regular phone contact with my ex-in-laws as I still have a young child and quite frankly, her father is useless.

I don’t mind this contact, them occasionally messaging to see how DD is doing or a FaceTime with other children in the family etc, however the issue is my ex-MIL.

She messages me every single day, without fail, and it’s all quotes for the day etc. I don’t regularly reply to these but she still continues doing it. I‘ve
mentioned it to ex-H but he just says she’s allowed to check in on me and DD - but it’s NOT checking in, just sending photos with quotes on them at 6am every morning, it’s draining me a little I can’t even lie.

AIBU to think this level of contact isn’t nice or sweet in anyway and it’s way too much?!

Can't you just ignore any messages from her until she sends one which doesn't come through at 6am?

I feel in the grand scheme of things this is a fairly mild issue.

Just continue to do what you're doing and ignore as much as you can.

On the plus side its good to have a positive relationship with your child's grandma.

Just mute her

Just put her on mute and read them all at the same time. I think it’s nice that she is still interested in maintaining a relationship.

You can ask her to stop, or you can live with it/ mute her.

No point worrying over whether or not her behaviour is reasonable (which is very subjective anyway). It's too much for you, which is all that really matters.