Grandparents visit

[CarrotHeadRoots]

Me and DH work full time all week. Both girls attend nursery with GP picking up once a week. During the week me and dad spend very little time with both DD. We absolutely love our weekends as a family. I am finding GP expect to see DD every weekend and even want over night stays. DD are 1 and 3. I want them to spend time with their Nan and Grandad but not every weekend. I’m being made to feel I’m being mean. How do you all manage this and AIBU?

You say you're being made to feel mean - how and who by? What are they actually saying?

I'd just be honest but breezy, "we've got plans this weekend but how about next weekend?" etc.

Can they maybe have their overnight in occasionally in the week and drop back
the following day at nursery?
Could you drop down nursery by a day and them have a day in the week?
could you do a family night dinner on a Friday so you all get round the table but it doesn’t encroach on the weekend?

I think they sound lovely, helpful and keen and there will be times when you want their help so i think its worth seeing how you might encourage them

If the GPs want extra time offer them a full day in the week and drop a days nursery.
If they won’t do that then just say you’re busy. Personally I think once a month is plenty to see GPs at weekends. Mine see theirs about every 2-3 months. We don’t have the time to see them more often

Yes comments have been made about not spending enough time.

it is very important to me that they do have a good relationship with their GP and I am extremely grateful that we have my mum and dad. I just also want to enjoy my family and feel every weekend is too much.

I am only young and both my parents still work. They aren’t in a financial position to give this up.