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Interview in morning

10 replies

Sheff97 · 06/05/2024 23:28

I’m socially quite an anxious person and I’m too nervous that I feel like cancelling. It’s for an ideal job role and the hours work well with my DD school hours. I’ve done this type of role before but been out of work 4 years. I’ve prepared my answers but my mind goes blank in interviews. I’m worried I’ll just get flustered and embarrassed and I just feel to cancel. Aibu ? Any tips please :(

OP posts:
SD1978 · 06/05/2024 23:31

Just breathe. You've prepared, so take your time. Answer to the best of your ability and take the opportunity.

parietal · 06/05/2024 23:32

Write a list to questions they are likely to ask. Then write your answers. The practice saying them aloud and confidently. Practice will help.

This is a good time to fake being happy and confident. Remember they can't see you are nervous inside so just paste on a smile and fake it.

And have a good breakfast tomorrow

BreakingAndBroke · 06/05/2024 23:38

Biggest tip is to turn your phone off now and get a good night's sleep. It is very easy to lose an hour or more to mumsnet and end up tired and feeling worse for your interview!

Think of a couple of incidents you can refer to as they are bound to ask you for examples of "tell us a time you didn't get on with a colleague/didn't meet a deadline/dealt with conflict" and it is good to have something in mind to discuss rather than sit umming for 10 minutes. Just make sure all examples end with a positive result or lesson learned. Good luck!

CountryMumof4 · 06/05/2024 23:40

Take some good deep breaths and think about all the positives that you could bring to the role. Be prepared for the questions regarding the four years you've been out of work. If it's simply because of childcare, make it clear it's because of that. Be as open and honest as possible and try to smile, if you can. Recruiters (good ones) will understand that you're nervous. One of my newest recruits was a nervous wreck during their interview, but I saw huge potential in her - haven't regretted my decision once. Best of luck OP - will be thinking of you :-)

YeahComeOnThen · 06/05/2024 23:42

No, don't cancel!

you need to go for interviews if you want/need a job. You might as well get the first one over & done with!!

you've got this!!

now go to sleep!!

CognitiveBehaviouralHypnotherapy · 06/05/2024 23:44

Repeat this to yourself: I’ve done this type of role before. I’ve prepared my answers.

you are qualified for this and ready

feeling nerves is normal, all humans do. The nerves can help you ace this interview. You’re ready for action. Think of the nerves as charge or energy.

the interviewer has felt this before too because once they too sat in your seat

smile. they will start with small talk and you can go into that. Exchange a couple of pleasantries at the beginning: comment on the building, the company, an event they’re doing etc

its okay to admit to the nerves in a casual way. You don’t have to be superhuman.

if you feel flustered take a breath, take a sip of water and take a moment before you answer.

you could always ask them to repeat the question or rephrase the question yourself if you feel you need time.

in case you feel going blank you can even admit to that and move on to the next question

direct your attention away from yourself (what did I just say? How do I sit? How do I look etc) and focus squarely on the other person

ask them questions

go slow

and breathe. Focus on the out breath, it’s calming

picture yourself smashing the interview

you got this!

RaininSummer · 06/05/2024 23:47

The worst thing that can happen is that you don't get the job. That is all. Go for it.

ThinWomansBrain · 06/05/2024 23:55

If you've gone through the questions you think they might ask, the responses will stick in your mind.
If it helps you feel more comfortable, say you'll be keeping your notepad to hand (BUT DON;T MAKE IT LOOK LIKE YOU'RE READING THE ANSWERS )
You cna also use the notepad to make notes of any questions that you want to ask them that come into your head during the course of the conversation,

ScottBakula · 06/05/2024 23:56

BreakingAndBroke · 06/05/2024 23:38

Biggest tip is to turn your phone off now and get a good night's sleep. It is very easy to lose an hour or more to mumsnet and end up tired and feeling worse for your interview!

Think of a couple of incidents you can refer to as they are bound to ask you for examples of "tell us a time you didn't get on with a colleague/didn't meet a deadline/dealt with conflict" and it is good to have something in mind to discuss rather than sit umming for 10 minutes. Just make sure all examples end with a positive result or lesson learned. Good luck!

I agree with this , particularly the first paragraph.

In the morning plan your journey, if you can do a couple of dry runs .
So you can time the buses , trains , traffic and parking.

I have interviewed 100s , I can see through nerves and tongue ties.
I am much more concerned about your personality, and your ability to engage and give examples of how you have delt with hard customers / time pressure/ emergencies/conflicting management perspective etc .

Tallerandtall · 06/05/2024 23:59

@Sheff97

its ok to have bullet point notes.

good luck!!

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