DH steals my snacks ...

[lightsandtunnels]

AIBU? (light hearted, but actually fuming)

DH doesn't like snacks. Well, that's what he says anyway!
Today we went to our local refillable shop, I bought a small bag of dark chocolate covered brazil nuts. Thinking I'd enjoy them this evening.

'Do you want anything?' I asked him.

'No, I'm OK thanks.'
Perfect, small bag, about twenty brazils.
Just went into the fridge. More than half of them are gone!
'You've eaten my brazils!' I wailed at him.
'Oh, I only had a few, err a couple.'
Fuming.

What makes it even worse (for me) is that I know he'll have just gone into the fridge, grabbed several, chucked them in his mouth and seconds later they'd have been gone. No bloody appreciation for the deliciously bitter but sweet chocolate enrobed around a fresh, crunchy and creamy brazil nut. I wanted to put them into my lovely handmade bowl I bought on holiday and look at them all shiny and beautiful and savour them slowly whilst watching Masterchef.

He does this all the time with packets of crisps that he says he doesn't want, then eats half of them or what I've left in the bag for the next day for myself, mini pork pies from M&S when he 'hates pastry.' Don't even get me started on the chocolate hob nobs I bought on Friday that he 'doesn't like' yet managed to gobble half the packet in the time it took me to have a shower last night.

AIBU? Think I might just LTB. Or should I just get double of everything next time?

Thanks for all the advice!

The fundamental difference between DH and me is I bloody love my food and he just looks on food as fuel. You have to eat, so he eats. He likes to go out for dinner but would never bother about spending hours cooking and never expects me to either. So his perception of food, snacks whatever is completely different to mine. Whatever is around he'll snack on or eat but if it's not there he won't be bothered. This is more about my food obsession (don't eat my snacks!) than DH being a selfish prick - which he definitely isn't.

We get weekly food shop delivered which I do admin for but he is the keeper of the kitchen list and then we both top up during the week.

So I don't think I'll be using the spade right now but if he eats any of the Maltesers and Jelly Babies I've put in the fridge ready for Eurovision tomorrow night then I will not be held responsible for my actions!

It's called positional value. Something's value is determined by who has it (its position).

Toddlers know all about this.

Interesting, thanks for that. Laughing at the toddler comment, it is quite a child-like thing to do.

I don't buy this as an excuse, sorry. So yiu have different attitudes around food, so what? You've been together long enough to know about each other's peculiarities. If he still doesn't observe your boundaries it indicates a lack of respect for you as his partner and is a major red flag. So don't put that spade away just yet.

@lightsandtunnels I think you need what some of us have in the work fridge, which is a nice big plastic box with a lid and a GIANT sized note saying Hands Off!
Hope your treats last and you enjoy ESC 🎶🎤🎶🎤

LTB

TBH, both of you come across as greedy. He, for gobbling down half a pack of chocolate hobnobs in one sitting; and you, for not sharing your chocolate covered Brazil nuts, malteasers, jelly tots or whatnot. It’s just food; it’s not like he’s stolen all your gold and silver. Just buy a family-sized pack of whatever and share. That’s what normal people do. If it finishes, go and find something else to eat.

Lol really just buy extra regardless
Never heard of anyone saying their partner stole snacks

I just googled— it appears you shouldn’t be eating that many Brazil nuts in one go anyway. Too many can lead to selenium toxicity, which can, amongst other symptoms, cause bad breath, diarrhoea and nausea. And that’s just the regular ones; God knows what overeating the chocolate-covered ones can do to you. You should be able to get 4 portions out of one bag - 2 for the both of you. Definitely meant for sharing.

DH doesn't like snacks. Well, that's what he says anyway!
Today we went to our local refillable shop, I bought a small bag of dark chocolate covered brazil nuts. Thinking I'd enjoy them this evening.
'Do you want anything?' I asked him.
'No, I'm OK thanks.'
Perfect, small bag, about twenty brazils.
Just went into the fridge. More than half of them are gone!
'You've eaten my brazils!' I wailed at him.
'Oh, I only had a few, err a couple.'
Fuming.

Well, clearly he DOES like snacks if he’s devouring the ones you’ve bought like there’s no tomorrow. You have a noggin. It’s there for a purpose. Use it. You don’t have to be Sherlock Holmes to figure out he’s going to do it again if he’s been doing it regularly. How long have you known this bloke? Just buy a family-sized pack or another pack of pork pies, gummy bears or whatever. No need to seek advice from Mumsnet as to whether you should do this or not. No need to “fume” and “wail” and beat your chest and gnash your teeth. You’re an adult, behave like one.

Christ alive. Just don’t reply if you find the OP’s post a waste of time. No need for this.

Very many years ago (I’m very old) there was a thread where the OP made fat balls (lard and seed as a recall) for the garden birds and put them in the fridge to set and her husband and his friends ate them while watching football and he commented they were not as tasty as usual. You should make fat balls and see if your DH steals those.

get a snack lock box off amazon. you can even get ones that go in the fridge now.

The whole scenario is so ludicrous, it just invites comment. They’re both equally bad. It’s like the pot calling the kettle black, or Tweedledee holding a mirror up to Tweedledum. She’s stingy with buying snacks and sharing them; he’s gulping them down furtively behind her back, as fast as he can, whilst she’s in the shower. On top of that, he’s a liar. Who doesn’t remember if they’ve eaten a “couple” of Brazil nuts or more than half the bag? Has he got memory problems or amnesia or something. Maybe he needs to go to a doctor to be checked out.

It’s odd you are mocking someone’s self control when you can’t seem to hold back from snotty comments.

But you do you, sweetie.

Ok, honey.

When I was younger, my mum would buy those big bags of multipack crisps. If you didn’t get what you wanted the first couple of days, you were shit out of luck until shopping day. That’s because my dad used to scoff everyone’s favourite favours first, and then leave the ones no one else liked so he could eat them at his own leisure

This is no snaccident OP. LTB

We occasionally get a McDonald's and DH always used to say he didn't want fries and would just have a few of mine. After the second time of him eating over half of them I have started buying him his own. He still says "I only wanted a few" I just tell him not to eat them all then but I wanted a full portion. I have no tolerance for his nonsense.

Late to the party and apologies if it's already been requested but can we see your lovely handmade bowl @lightsandtunnels

OP, you’re a study in contradiction. On the one hand, it’s all “light-hearted”, yet, on the other hand, you’re “fuming.” You refer to your DP as “gobbling” down and “chucking” food into his mouth, thereby painting him to be some sort of cave man escaped from the local zoo. He’s stealing your food: your crisps, gummy bears, pork pies, hobnobs and Brazil nuts; and yet, he “definitely” isn’t a “selfish prick.” Yes, this thing is about your “food obsession” (and inability to share) to an extent, but he’s also at fault. Justifying his behaviour will only continue to reinforce and enable it. Don’t be an enabler.

What makes it even worse (for me) is that I know he'll have just gone into the fridge, grabbed several, chucked them in his mouth and seconds later they'd have been gone. No bloody appreciation for the deliciously bitter but sweet chocolate enrobed around a fresh, crunchy and creamy brazil nut. I wanted to put them into my lovely handmade bowl I bought on holiday and look at them all shiny and beautiful and savour them slowly whilst watching Masterchef.

What brand of nuts? I’m sold. I want the same experience. I want to try some of these fresh, crispy, crunchy, munchy, shiny, beautiful Brazil nuts, and savour them as they go down my gullet. Also, any recommendations for a lovely handmade bowl?

Quite random but a thank you really to the poster a while back who said too many Brazil nuts are bad for you.
I was eating 10 odd per day and often had a bit of a stomach ache. Had never heard of selenium toxicity. Now I stick to two and all gone. Beware!

I’m confused. Is this a joke thread or does it actually bother you?