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To not want to have to fight to be seen by a midwife?

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PeggySioux · 02/04/2008 21:41

Had a mw check-up this morning. Everything fine. She asks me to book in for another appointment and possible stretch / sweep in three weeks time, at which point I will be 41 weeks pg (or have had the baby). Fine.

"No appointments" says the receptionist.

Okay... but the midwife just said she wanted to see me at 41 weeks.

"Sorry love, I've got no appointments. I could maybe squeeze you in the week after?"

That's nice of you, but I won't be 41 weeks pregnant the week after. I'll be 42 weeks and arrrgh!

The thing is, if they have no appointments then don't ask to see me. If they want to see me, then work out a system whereby I can have an appointment. I know they can't magic appointments out of the air, and I sympathise that they're obviously overstretched, but it's not as though I've suddenly sprung my due date on them.

The exact same thing happened last time when I was a nervous and tearful first timer. I was wussier then and ended up going home with no appointment booked until 10 days after my due date, worried sick that something would go horribly wrong. I'm not worried this time, and I'm hugely appreciative that I seem to be having an uncomplicated pregnancy and don't really need to be poked and prodded every 5 minutes.

But still, it's bloody exhausting and dispiriting to arrive on time for an appointment, wait an hour and 15 minutes (no explanation or warning) trying to entertain an increasingly bored toddler, be seen by a locum midwife (no explanation or warning) and then find yourself appologising for not being about to move your due date to suit their computer.

Gahh, this turned into a right old rant.

OP posts:
scottishmummy · 02/04/2008 21:45

dreadful poor you!phone and complain to midwifery team leader.explain they specifically requested you make the appt. hope this doesn't make you stressed

cazboldy · 02/04/2008 21:46

ring her up and make her come to your house!

MissChief · 02/04/2008 21:47

sounds like you've got a jobsworth recep[tionaist. they'll need to bump someone off the list and prioritise you,insist on it, you'lll be 41 weeks!

spicemonster · 02/04/2008 21:48

That's ridiculous! I had a load of complications at the end of my pregnancy and ended up having to see either a mw or a consultant every week. What if there was something wrong and they needed to monitor you?

I'd complain to your PCT (now, before you have the baby, while you still have the energy )

mspotatochip · 02/04/2008 21:55

Goodness I had midwives coming to my house daily by end of PG (high blood pressure). they even came in late am as meds were making me sleepy and I couldn't get up early. Any of the midwives I got to know v well would be livid if they heard of something like that. You will have a mobile somewhere for a midwife team ring direct they will sort her for you!

PeggySioux · 02/04/2008 22:06

I stood my ground this time and am being seen as an extra (much to the huffing, tutting receptionist's dismay!). Perhaps I should write though - it's obviously a silly system and someone less bolshy assertive would just end up not being seen (eg me, last time).

@ the idea of a midwife coming to my house!

OP posts:
cazboldy · 03/04/2008 08:07

Well done peggy

Why the ?

mspotatochip · 03/04/2008 08:14

If shes anything like me she'd want to clean up I did for a while until they pointed out they were coming to my house to save me going to docs and getting stressed etc so please just leave the mess!

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