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To miss my husband after 6 months of seperating

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CleverOpalPanda · 06/05/2024 18:25

Me and husband separated 6 months ago and first 6 months I was happy and relieved but now I cry everyday whenever thinking that one day I might be in a relationship and it's not with him.
I think of all the good times and I feel so sad that this couldn't be saved.

I feel very unreasonable because my marriage was not good.

There have been 4 instances of physical abuse (one of them while I was with covid),there has been neglect ,Verbal abuse ,belittling me ,emotional abuse ,talking to other women online and yet I stay here crying and thinking this is all my fault and maybe if I was not so annoying and nagging he wouldn't have been abusive.
Maybe if I worked more on my appearance he wouldn't look at other women And so on.
He says it was reactive abuse because I wouldn't give him the peace he deserved and I wonder sometimes if I was the abuser or if I turned him into one.

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OligoN · 06/05/2024 18:30

Jesus Christ. Get yourself to counseling as quick as you can.

My ex is also a horror, and I am so grateful to his new girlfriend taking him off my hands.
Honestly, I wouldn’t touch him with yours.

Recently on a date I was saying that there will come a point where I have friends who never knew me with him, or maybe even know me as part of a new couple, and how I can’t wait for that day.

nimski · 06/05/2024 18:42

He's done a real number on you unfortunately. Sounds like you have had a lucky escape from this horrible man. You need counselling to work on your self esteem.

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