To feel sad that my 15 y DS will be alone

[Godimtiredallthetime]

Up until recently I've been able to be at home during school holidays. I'm about to go into a full time job and I've realised this means that apart from two weeks, my ds who's 15 will be home alone all summer holidays. He doesn't go out and mix with his peers so he will be sat in his room all day. AIBU that this makes me sad? What does everyone else who works ft do about the school summer holidays?

It's sad that he doesn't have any friends. Does he want friends or is he ok in his own company?

I'd look for a summer camp/program for older kids that he can join.

Why does he not socialise? Does he have any hobbies? My mum worked during the school holidays when I was that age and I loved it. How far do you work? Could you pop in on him if you’re really worried?

He needs to work on friendships.

Is he sad about it? I wouldn’t worry. He will come up with his own entertainment. Give him a wad of cash, tell him he’s making dinner for the family every day, and let him get on with it.

I can understand that you'd feel sad about that, but is he OK in his own company?
Ideas for the rest of the holidays:
Does he have grandparents or cousins he could go to visit for a few days?
What interests does he have, could he do a summer camp or at least a day workshop?
Could he do some casual jobs to keep him busy?
What about some fun at home like encouraging him to camp in the garden, or is he more the type to hole up in his bedroom?

It’s a little while away yet, there’s time to think of some things he could do. Would he be up for volunteering? Or doing some sports? Does he not have friends at school he could plan some days out with?

To be honest some kids are just introverted. My daughter is 15 and although she does socialise and have friends and stuff, she'd be really happy to be home alone and would be able to keep herself occupied fine.

If he is sad about having no friends, then maybe you can try and help him with that but I assume you already have. But if he's generally okay being alone, then don't feel guilty! You're not being unreasonable about being upset obviously but he should be fine.

I have a teen who tends to stay in his room, but he discovered working out / weight training at the gym about 18 months ago, and it has really boosted his confidence and has helped him to make some friends outside of school. And it gets him out of the house every day. Could you see if he might be interested in joining your local gym and having an induction? Could you incentivise him to go daily during the summer break?

I just feel guilty. I know I've been incredibly lucky to be able to do things with him in the holidays. His sibling is older so will also be working. I had my mum home all the time at his age but actually I did like it when everyone was out so maybe I'm just thinking he will be lonely. I had lots of friends though. He doesn't like his school friends as they're not always the nicest. Think it's the age and he's more sensitive. He stays with them so he's not alone at school but has no interest in seeing them in his free time. He does belong to a gym so perhaps he can step that up a bit.