Parents in law haven’t congratulated second pregnancy…

[Bloome22]

Told news over WhatsApp 2 weeks ago (MIL said something like “lovely news.” And FIL said nothing), saw them today and they didn’t say say / acknowledge anything… is this not weird? AIBU to feel disappointed they didn’t ask how I was doing or just say congratulations in person?

Might it be they are a little cautious/superstitious talking about the pregnancy. When I told my mum, she never mentioned it throughout the whole pregnancy - I remember being so upset. I did talk to her about it after my child was born and she told me about someone she worked with who had just lost a baby early on and she didn't want to jinx things. She was great when our baby arrived and couldn't have been a better granny.

To be honest, second pregnancies are never quite as celebrated/special as the first time round - it's just a bit like "ah they're having another, that's nice".

I say this as someone currently pregnant with her second!

Are they involved in the first child? You’ve compared them with your family who
you say are better, so I wonder if they pick up on the vibe.
does your husband maintain contact? And show an interest in them and their news?

I'm the other way round. I'd be mildly disappointed if they made a big deal of it with scan pics and fuss because I'd take that as them not trusting us to be excited with the news itself if they didn't dress it up.

I told my parents all three times over the phone in a brief call at about 5 weeks with a caveated "obviously it's early days so anything could happen" because I didn't want a big fuss. I knew they were excited about being grandparents, I didn't want it to be a big deal

@DappledThings oh I certainly wouldn't want scan pics or fuss.

Our parents were told over the phone at 12 weeks for the first pg which I lost at 17 weeks so thereafter 18 weeks.

I don't see much difference between phone and WhatsApp really. That's the trouble, everyone's different and has a different perception of what's an acceptable way to tell people and how to react.

I lost first pregnancy at 12 weeks and still told pretty much as soon as I knew the next two times.

Really no point OP thinking her in-laws haven't reacted as she would expect them to though. It sounds fine to me.