to be a little bit annoyed at being told not to go on holiday ?

[elfsmum]

DH and I both work full time, when we get our annual leave we work out who will take what time off to look after the DC's when they are on school holidays.

We don't have enough leave between us to cover every day off.

My wonderful sister (and I truly mean that I'm not being sarcastic) looks after them for me over the summer holiday. DH and I cover all of the other half terms, Christmas and Easter.

There is no problem with us paying for childcare - we can and would do it - my sister offered to look after them once they had started school. In return we pay for trips out (for both mine and her DC's), cinema etc, and treat my sister to nice things for her to do. Also when she needs to be somewhere one of us will arrange to work at home for the day so we have all DC's

Arrangement has worked well on both sides.

Talking earlier I said I needed to speak to DH as the DC's are off shortly for two weeks, and we're all of together for the 1st week (and going on the only holiday we will have all year as it's the cheapest time to go) and we need to sort out who will be off the following week.

Sister say's "why don't you not go on holiday and take a week off each"

Now I'm a little miffed at this suggestion:

1. because we will cover the second week between us - not asking for extra help
2. it's the only holiday that we will get as a family

I also think I might be BU as she could be thinking

1. I'm not getting a holiday
2. I'm looking after your kids when you work and you are getting a holiday

which I can fully understand, and I also understand we're lucky to be getting a holiday as I know lots of people dont.

or have I been to sensitive ?

I think you might be being a bit sensitive elf...your sis probably just voiced the most logical solution and didn't think anymore about it. On the other hand, she might be a little narked about not having a holiday...but it's probably not serious. Why don't you just check she is still happy with the arrangements

I think you're being a little over-sensitive. She soulds lovely, and probably thought it was a practical solution to the problem. She was probably just thinking out loud - it sounds as if it was a pretty throw-away comment really, and not something to get majorly wound up about.

you're right of course

haven't been feeling brilliant the last few days, am very short tempered -just shouted at DC's to go to bed as they were taking to long to do it

followed by a huge sneezing fit, I'm looking at the ironing and don't want to do it

want to crawl into bed tbh