DH doesn’t want next door round the house

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I’ve made a lovely little friend next door she is 10 and comes to play with DD. She is 10 years old and DD is 5. DH says she is too old to play with DD and doesn’t like her being round here as she’s always in the way.

It’s just her and her mum I am assuming her mum has some drink related issues from what the daughter has told me. She has told me about her dad and how he has been absent her whole life.

She is round our house for hours sometimes and I don’t hear anything from her mum.

She is lovely and says she wishes I was her mum because I sit outside and play with them :( and hugs me every time I see her.

Its causing arguments but I feel like I have some kind of attachment to her and worry I will upset her.

What on earth do I do?

I think your husband is right to be cautious. This poor girl sounds like she is becoming attached to you and has problems at home. Do you know what school she goes to? Perhaps you should call and ask to speak to someone who's in charge of safeguarding

You call SS and advise them that this poor girl is not being cared for by her Mum and tell them what the girl has said about her Mum's drinking

This OP.

Your husband’s caution is understandable. You can’t solve her problems.

Before you know it, you'll end up like Whitney in Eastenders, if you're not careful! Your OH is right. I'd also have a word with safeguarding, at her school.

How often is she at your house?

I wouldn’t let my partner tell me that our children couldn’t have friends around, it’s part of having children.

I would be cautious about the situation though. Is the child being neglected? If the child is telling you that her mum is drunk, you should report. Poor kid.

I'm concerned you describe her as your little friend, OP. You have to be the adult here. If you think she's not looked after properly then you need to contact social services, not take on the care of the child yourself. I do feel for the girl, but she needs more help than you can give her now.