Was this rude? I can't tell.

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So DH DS and I arranged to meet another family we have known for years from baby classes, today in the park at 10, been arranged for three weeks.
They did not turn up and we waited around in the horrible drizzle for about half an hour, DH thought maybe their youngest was having a longer nap so we then waited til 11, then I text to ask if they were coming down or if we got the wrong park.
Nothing until 12 when she said she's been busy with her DH family and wasn't going to be able to make it. Two hours after we'd arranged to meet. They'd even text in the morning to confirm plans.
DD gets on with their kids v well, we've met up at certain points over the years, DD had also made their kids cakes and was v excited to see them so she was disappointed.
Now I thought this was a bit rude and I was fuming, but I lost my mum last year unexpectedly and find it quite hard to get out and about with people still (horrible diagnosis, died a few days later), which they know so not sure if I'm being over sensitive due to this... so Is it rude or AIBU?

Very rude.

I had a friend who we'd arrange something with, down to the day and time and everything but then nothing.
Then one time she didn't show up at all. I warned my child we'll just go, have a good time and she might not show up.
Well after that I never bothered again. But I did text her to say we're here if you're coming. And nothing!
You can't understand it

Yep bloody rude! I absolutely do not get people who think it’s ok to do things like this? CFs
I wouldn’t bother with them again!

Nothing until 12 when she said she's been busy with her DH family and wasn't going to be able to make it. Two hours after we'd arranged to meet. They'd even text in the morning to confirm plans.

I wouldn’t be able to resist a PA reply -

“Ah, sorry, I didn’t realise it was a ‘see you if we see you’ arrangement when you confirmed times this morning. If I’d known, we would have gone home, instead of waiting around in the rain like lemons! Hope all ok with your dh’s family.”

very, very rude. That would be an end to the friendship for me.

Really sorry your mum died in such a cruel way. Hugs.

Thanks to all ref my mum and I'm sorry to those who have also had losses
It's really knocked me for six.
To clarify a few things..she suggested to meet up, and the place, and the time (around their DD naps).
We totally have them the benefit of the doubt the entire time until her msg was just 'sorry we got caught up with DH family and can't make today'.
I know they are v close to his family and often see them, but then why suggest to meet up and why wait two hours.
I don't know if they have form for this. Another friend from our baby group used to meet up with them regularly and this stopped, when I asked this friend why she said meet ups got tricky. I don't see the other mum regularly to ask.

So rude!!

You and your DH seem like lovely people and you do not need ‘friends’ like this in your life.

That's terrible op. Do not make plans again with them.

They confirmed, then a better offer came up and they still never let you know today wasn't going to happen.

They're shitty friends.

this.

It was definitely rude but I do admit I have a friend that does this to me a lot. I always take our meet ups with a pinch of salt knowing she may not turn up. I know it's bad form from her so I keep her at arms length but I'm pretty easy going and we have fun when we do meet.

If it's a one off I wouldn't hold it against them. How often do you meet? Everyone has crazy days, I doubt it was malicious.

Sorry about your mum, I understand that must affect a lot of your day to day life. Try not to add unnecessary stress into it though with things you can't change x