How far is too far for a birthday party

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It's my sister's 40th bday party in a few weeks. As much as I'd like to go, my only mode of transport is the train which is nearly 3 hours each way, up to three changes and £80 even if I stay overnight and travel back the next day. That doesn't appeal much but is it best to suck it up for a 40th?

I am close to my sister, so I would, I think.

If it was someone I was less close to, then I might not.

But if you are planning on traveling by train on a weekend day, then do check for engineering works. I cancelled a planned trip to an event as I was potentially looking at a 6 hour journey when the bus replacement was factored in.

You should go. But it's up to you. Depends on the relationship and your personal circumstances. My sister and I are very close. I'm an expat so travelled to my home country in the pandemic for my sisters 40th because I couldn't miss it. Took 24 hours door to door to get there and cost thousands 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sounds like a massive pain to be honest but if it's your sister's 40th, I think you need to make the effort

Sisters 40th... that doesn't sound too far. I travelled London to Edinburgh for my cousins 21st for example

Just got back from my sisters 50th shes in a different country

A special bday happens every 10 years so I don't think 6 hours of travelling is that much.

Can't you go for a bit longer and so something else there too?

What's your relationship like with her?

What would you expect for a special bday of yours?....not that you should expect the same but just to check out if you have different expectations which is influencing your decision making with this.

I would do this for my siblings 40th. And I am not very close with my siblings.

I travel an hour and half to work each way everyday so three hours for a big bit to day wouldn't be a question to on for me. I'd download a good podcast/audio book or get some life admin done on the train to make best use of the time 😁

I would go

Id happily do that for my sister as long as I had the money

Theres no answer to this, if it's too far for you its too far for you, why does it matter if it s not too far for me or anyone else?

Is it sibling birthday thread day, the last tread I opened was on the same subject 😀

Is this a reverse? Is your sister potentially letting you down?

If I wanted to see someone I would happily travel 3 hours each way. That wouldn't bother me.

As an adult, I think that’s a reasonable journey.

As an every 10 years event for a big birthday, I would suck it up and do the travel. Stay over to make it a bit more manageable though.

As others have said, it is going to depend on your relationship with your sister, your finances, and other circumstances that will impact.

I would, not least because presumably it isn't just your sister who will be there, but their birthday party is a hook upon which she is hanging a get together for other family members, and I would want to see them too.