to post a 'woo woo' question?

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I feel a bit ridiculous posting this but here goes:

I'll preface this by saying that I am a sceptical believer, that I have an interest in the supernatural but that I've never seen anything and that I don't fully believe in these things but I was brought up (from my mums side of the family) to believe that ghosts are real yada yada.

My mum passed away a couple of years back from the flu. She had a health condition but it was never believed to be as bad as it was, my mum was a very proud and independent woman who masked a lot of her symptoms. So her quick decline and eventual death was devastating for me and the rest of the family. I had a little time with her at the end to tell her I loved her and nothing was really left unsaid, no massive feelings of having let her down, nothing like that. Afterwards I took time off work, processed everything as best I could and I feel that I am in a place where I can think about her and remember our life together without feeling that sucker punch to the stomach.

I can't however stop wondering why she hasn't 'shown me a sign' that she's ok. Like I say, I'm a fairly rational person but I was brought up by my mum and grandma who always had stories to tell of their 'visitations from the other side' so in the back of my mind I'm still wondering if these things were real, why hasn't she shown me that she's ok?
I've had numerous dreams where I'm explaining to her that she died and comforting each other, even a dream where I showed her the engagement ring that my partner proposed to me with recently, could this be something?

Like I've banged on about, I'm not unhinged and I suspect this is all part of the grieving process but AIBU to ask if anyone here has had any 'visits from the other side' from their own loved ones

ToveJanssonsWife · Today 15:17

I'm sorry - I don't know how to paste a link (without leaving MN and going into YouTube etc...I'm a bit 20th century where these things are concerned) but the only time I wondered about this (premonition dreams) was in the case of an undergraduate at Oxford or Cambridge who made money on the gee-gees because he kept having premonition dreams about the winners of races.

I will try to find the link and post it. I really, really wanted it to be true - and it's pretty amazing - but unfortunately a very down-to-earth friend shed doubt on it for me. Back soon...

ToveJanssonsWife · Today 15:17

Re dream premonition case:
Sorry - no luck on YouTube, Will keep trying and get back if I find it. I have watched the documentary on there, so I know it exists!

Look up Dolores Cannon.

I found an article - here

I love stuff like this.

The trouble is with woo stuff is that people tend to start believing when they’ve experienced things, but it’s impossible to prove that you’ve experienced it.

I dreamed the lottery numbers once - I was reading a newspaper (in the dream) and they were there. When I woke up I wrote down what I could remember, which was 4 numbers. I bought a ticket, those four numbers were all right - I won £27 (wooo). ExH was there at the time, watched me write down the numbers, so it wasn’t without witness.

My mum died last year and I dreamed about her for the first time about a month ago. My dad has been behaving erratically and I was really worried about him but in the dream she reassured me and gave me a hug and told me it would be ok. I know it’s my rational mind reassuring me but my goodness it gave me such comfort.

I had a series of precient dreams back in the early 80's. I wasn't going through any trauma or even excitement at the time, just normal life. I was in my early twenties at the time.

The first dream was of Ronald Reagan being shot. I saw it exactly like the news reel the following day, only in my dream it was black and white.

The second was really, really strange. I dreamt I was in a small impoverished town in South (or central) America. I was on the only road running through the town/village which was little more than a dirt track. Either side were single storey houses which had obviously once been colourfully painted but were now faded and they all had flat roofs. There were chickens running in the street but otherwise it was eerily silent.

I looked down at my clothing and realised I was a man and that I was walking side by side with another man. We both had cameras. We were speaking quietly in Dutch (in my dream I knew it was Dutch).

We were suddenly ambushed by a several men who were dressed sort of like soldiers or police and we were shot. The other man with me died instantly but I crawled to the side of the dirt road. I could feel the pain of the bullet wound. Then they came and finished me off and in my dream I lived every moment of my death.

Some days later there was a report of four Dutch journalists murdered in a remote village in El Salvador. It wasn't exactly headline news but it was reported.

For reference, I have no connection with South America or have ever been there. I am not Dutch and do not know how to speak Dutch. I am not a journalist and definitely not a man. Why on earth did an ordinary, 24 year old English girl
pick up this rather obscure incident?

Downtoyou I’m so sorry for the loss of your DS 💐

@Downtoyou - I'm so very sorry for your loss. x

OP I'm sorry for your loss, I don't have answers. I lost my little girl shortly after her birth 20 years ago. I have had some strange things happen over the years. At the time I have thought "wow" and then later explained them away.. I think that is human nature. I tend on the side of believer, but I really don't know. The hope keeps me going. I hope you get your sign.

I'm a believer. Many woo things have happened to me.

I didn't really see a sign from my grandma (who I was very close to) until 18 years after her death. I was pregnant and single and really struggling with ante natal depression to the point of not wanting to live any more. I felt her 'around' a lot when I was crying.

One day I came back from the shops and two books were in the middle of the front room, carefully placed on top of each other, perfectly aligned, not fallen etc. no one else had been in or had keys.

One of the books was a book I was featured in, and the other one was called what happens when we die? I took that as a sign that I wasn't alone.

A sign is anything that brings you comfort.

I am so sorry for you loss.

To the OP, I don’t believe in the afterlife and think people see what they want to see and take meaning from “signs” but if signs are comforting then there’s no harm in looking at them in that way. I still see my grandad in the faces of people - I know it’s not him but I feel some comfort from it.