I recently dealt with the loss of a very close family member. I work full time Mon-Fri and in the two weeks leading to their death I spent the time outwith work at the hospital (other family members were there during the time I was at work. As we knew they were dying, the hospital didn’t put a limit on visiting time so I would be there until midnight and then up early for work the next morning.
On the day before their death I received a call saying it looked like the end was near so I asked my boss to leave early which they allowed with them asking if I could let them know if I would be in the next day. This was the first time I had told anyone at work about the situation and I was visibly upset. Fortunately they improved later that day so I was in work the next day. I texted my boss to say I would be in however they did not reply. When my boss arrived they did initially ask how were things and I gave the update. That was the last time my boss spoke to me that day and it was a real struggle to make it through that day (owing to the late nights and knowing the end was very near). My family member died that night. Since then I feel very resentful towards my boss feeling like they have no empathy and that they should have checked in to see how I was or could’ve responded to my text. They passed me numerous times so it’s not like they had to go out of their way. I have never cried at work in the 6+ years of working there before this so it’s not like I’m someone who is always emotional.