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The cheek of my neighbour

19 replies

Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 12:27

Omg I’m fooking livid. My DH and DS have gone camping today and as my DH was coupling up the trailer to the car our next door neighbour from hell has opened his front door and shouted can you tell that F’ing kid of yours to stop running up and down the F’ing stairs. DH didn’t even get the chance to reply to him as the coward said what he had to say then slammed the door and scurried off back inside. Now just for a bit of contex. Our DS who’s 13 is autistic and he has sensory difficulties and he seeks sensory input and one the ways in which he does this is through pressure in his feet so yes sometimes he does run up and down the stairs quickly as he likes the feeling of it in his feet. I tell him to try and do it a bit quieter so not to disturb the neighbours (despite me despising them!) but it goes over DS’s head. I remind my to walk not run but our stairs run parallel (terraced housing) so I also hear his 3 kids running up and down but i don’t get annoyed as that’s typical every day noise in my opinion.

Anyway the reason I’m so annoyed with this is because I can’t believe the audacity of this person. For all of what we have put up with off him and his family the last three years I think he had balls to dare have a go about our DS. They have parties and large gatherings that are loud and go on until the early hours of the morning. They smoke weed inside of their house which in turn stinks out our house causing issues with my chest and my DS as he can’t tolerate the stench. They have dogs that they never walk and just throw outside to bark endlessly. Their son plays football for what feels like every minute of every day out front and I’ve had to put up with my front windows/door and car being hit repeatedly. He also kicks the ball repeatedly at his own front (upper) windows really hard yet the dad doesn’t get annoyed by this and doesn’t tell him to stop. They have bonfires all throughout the summer at odd times meaning when it’s boiling I have to shut my windows and I can’t have washing out on the line as our clothes end up stinking.

In general the parents are loud they cannot talk only shout and because evidently they are the popular family on our estate they constantly have guests round being loud blocking my driveway with their cars shouting swearing etc. The mum is bad but the dad is far worse he’s got a disgusting mouth on him he’s always spitting out front walking round with his top off like he’s an Adonis and in general they’re just not nice people. Although the kids can be annoying at times I actually feel sorry for them with parents like this. Anyway I hope he’s proud of himself as my DS has gone away this morning upset because this moron has had a go at him.

I’m so tempted to spend the weekend running up and down the stairs as hard and as fast as I can but then I don’t usually behave this way eg act out in retaliation. It’s bloody tempting though lol.

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IgnoranceNotOk · 04/05/2024 12:32

YANBU!
Do it!
Make sure you shout over that you can hear their kids running up and down the stairs too!

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 04/05/2024 12:33

Sound horrendous, I couldn't deal with that. I'd need to move. These types of people are scumbags. Even phoning the police probably isn't going to help.

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 04/05/2024 12:34

Also, who is voting that you're being unreasonable?? Are your neighbours on here??

Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 12:34

We are desperately trying to move. We are in social housing but we have been to see a mortgage advisor and we gave an idea of what our budget is and have seen some potential properties so fingers crossed.

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RubySloth · 04/05/2024 12:35

Hearing running up the stairs because your kid likes the feeling would drive me insane.

Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 12:36

Oh I didn’t even realise i’d enabled voting.

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Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 12:37

When I said he likes the feeling of it I didn’t mean that he does this all day long. He doesn’t run up the stairs for the sake of it. He just happens to run up the stairs when he’s going to his bedroom or going to use the toilet. Plus my next door neighbour has not one but three dc who do the exact same thing and I have to put up with it.

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AlisonDonut · 04/05/2024 12:39

I'd order some wooden clogs just to piss him off.

Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 12:40

lol to the wooden clogs idea.

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Faduckssake · 04/05/2024 12:40

You can't reason with stupid.

Ignore ignore ignore and move when you can. I expect they'll find being blanked like they don't matter even more annoying than retaliation.

Gleepbleepable · 04/05/2024 12:49

They sound almost exactly like my neighbours, you have my complete sympathy. Best of luck with moving, I hope you escape to somewhere transformative.

Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 12:50

Aw thank you.

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FloofyBear · 04/05/2024 13:10

I have autistic /ADHD children too, it's good to live in a detached house!! Good luck with the house purchase and you're definitely NBU, he sounds like a neighbour from hell

Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 13:21

Aw I can only dream of a detached house sadly.

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Justsmileanwave · 04/05/2024 14:30

Sounds like my neighbours. I feel for you.

RubySloth · 04/05/2024 15:54

Ezmaez · 04/05/2024 12:37

When I said he likes the feeling of it I didn’t mean that he does this all day long. He doesn’t run up the stairs for the sake of it. He just happens to run up the stairs when he’s going to his bedroom or going to use the toilet. Plus my next door neighbour has not one but three dc who do the exact same thing and I have to put up with it.

Kids go up to their rooms quite a bit in a day.. if he's bare foot and you have good carpet / underlay, how noisy is it?

I have a thing about repetitive noise, ball being kicked/ bouncing/ eating and it honestly drives me crazy.

I feel that you are having issues and I can see it from both sides and I hope you end up in a better situation with your house move as it can be awful having neighbours you don't get on with.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 04/05/2024 20:03

They sound horrific and had neighbours like them and they are just awful to live beside as think they are entitled to do what they want in their own house anytime. No point even trying to talk to them. Keep a diary of all their parties, weed smoking etc. If things escalate at least you have evidence. They think by shouting at you they can bully you. It says a lot about them as they cannot even have a grown up conversation. Feck them and their chavy friends. Do not let them intimidate you or your son. Live your life and if he shouts at you again call the police as that is intimidation. A grown man shouting at you. Shocking.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 04/05/2024 20:06

I think your son needs to learn the trumphet. Ha!! remember my sister learning it and it was awful. Don't dwell on them as they are awful. I had scum neighbours years ago and they would party all night, police used to raid their house for drugs. I rang the police as party going all night, people coming and going, as soon as police left they started again so I rang police again. They kept playing once song on repeat all the next day. People like that are just brain dead scum who drink and take drugs and no consideration for others.

ItDoesntHaveToBeDave · 04/05/2024 20:08

Im so tempted to spend the weekend running up and down the stairs as hard and as fast as I can but then I don’t usually behave this way eg act out in retaliation. It’s bloody tempting though lol

Which is why you are treated so badly. Fight fire with fire with eejits like this

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