I don't think I am, but just thought I would check!! Involves XP and money.

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£10 sounds fine to me - and I do hope your ex does give her some spending money, the tight git.

I wouldn't be giving her anything. Why do you think he won't get her anything, has he done this before?

Definitely no more. It is only 4 days. Your DP might be tight/skint but sure the GPs are likely to stump up? I have a 7yo btw.

I would give her £10 to spend on whatever she chooses.

You are right, xp should provide it, but if he won't then I'd not want her to go without.

My mum has just told me off for buying 2 board games for the kids to take to their dads. She said he should buy them, which he should, but I know he wont, and the kids are fed up of having nothing to do there.

I wouldn't have thought you needed to give her anything, but I don't think a tenner is mean or unreasonable of you, and I certainly don't think you need to give her more if you don't feel it's the right thing to do.

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Definitely give her the money. She might want to buy a wee thing for her Mum! She will love having it, and it is what you would do if she were away with the school. What XP has done is not her business.
£10 is the perfect amount - but be sure to put it in £1 coins.

From a position of no experience whatsoever...I wouldn't give her anything. Firstly I don't think it's really necessary for a 7yo to have own money in this situation - there may not even be much of an opportunity to spend it. If she does especially want something presumably she'll ask XP or GPs and either be treated or not. If not, then so be it.

To be honest I think if she is on holiday with them you should just let them get on with it! Good idea with phone though!

Hope you've got something nice planned for yourself whilst she's away!

Can you give her the money but tell her it's only to be used if she really needs to? Tell her that daddy and grandparents will probably buy her everything she needs, but, if she feels the need to buy you a present, she has some money of her own for that .

Dilbertina - as you say, you have no experience in this. I have years of dealing with exactly this stuff. It is a matter of the heart, not punishing XP. She wants to give her the money and would feel mean not to. Who knows if might encourage XP do do the same in future.
My DD always used her money to buy gifts - it made her very happy. She is 15 now and very generous to all .

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LOL! She's not silly, is she?

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