This is more of a what would you do, rather than an AIBU.
So, myself and partner are getting married in August, small ceremony with only immediate family, then a slightly bigger reception/party. No sit down meal or table plans. All fairly casual.
We have sent out invites and apart from our daughter who's 11, and our nieces and nephew (10 and 8) we haven't invited any children.
A friend received their invite yesterday and is invited to the reception only.
They have messaged my partner asking if the kids are invited (we only wrote the adults names on the invite) and if not why, if we don't have a no children rule as clearly our child is there?
Am I being unreasonable? It's my wedding not a kids birthday party, their children are 6 and 1 so a lot younger than our daughter.
What would you say to this person?