To think humans take life way too seriously.

[purpledreamsicle]

I'm a laid back person by nature but all around me I see stress and worry about things that will usually resolve in time.
I see people getting upset about things that aren't going to matter in the morning or worrying about things that might happen but probably won't.
I don't understand why people take everything so seriously when life is so short and in the end none of it will matter anymore.
Is life really meant to be full of problems and worry?
Is there anything wrong with just living more relaxed and care free? I feel like it's made out to be an irresponsible trait.
Is there really anything wrong with not worrying about what other people think or what others might say, I just don't get it, it seems like we're all out to make each others lives as difficult as possible because we hate anyone who isn't suffering as though they're not living in their idea of a stressful real world.

I'm a laid back person by nature

ok..

but all around me I see stress and worry about things that will usually resolve in time.

Describe those things in more detail. For me, I see people stressing about money, health and work. Those things don't necessarily resolve in time.

I don't understand why people take everything so seriously when life is so short and in the end none of it will matter anymore.

This is nihilism. Look it up @purpledreamsicle . People actually have to live and care about things, they need a purpose.

Is life really meant to be full of problems and worry?

Of course not, but worry is a mechanism people sometimes revert to when they really care.

Is there anything wrong with just living more relaxed and care free? I feel like it's made out to be an irresponsible trait.

Who makes you feel like this?

Is there really anything wrong with not worrying about what other people think or what others might say, I just don't get it, it seems like we're all out to make each others lives as difficult as possible because we hate anyone who isn't suffering as though they're not living in their idea of a stressful real world.

OK, I'm out at this point...

Tbh you're right. Most things in life are overcomplicated.

We live, we die. Might as well enjoy the in between as much as possible.

I don't understand why people take everything so seriously when life is so short

This life is too short phrase is used so often but I beg to differ. I think life is long, very long and that's where half the stress comes from. People worry about 'the rest of my life' all the time, the finances, relationships, health etc. If we all knew we were going to drop dead at 55 we would be probably happier and more relaxed.

I agree people over complicate life, it's meant to be an experience to be enjoyed, we've become over materialistic.

Oh yes absolutely, but we've been brainwashed by marketing companies to believe that material things bring happiness so we're constantly chasing the latest trends and working harder and longer hours because we believe we need it all.
If people stuck to the basics they'd be just as happy because things don't buy you happiness, just a temporary buzz until the next time.

I think it depends really, there are some things that you have to take accountability for, for the sake of others and to be a good person but that doesn't mean you can't live a more carefree life without stress and burn out.

It's all a balance, when you're lying on your death bed you're not going to wish you'd been a bit more stressed at work.

Some people worry excessively, but then some people have a lot to worry about.

There are actually things that happen in life that people need to be concerned about.

My MH would be a lot better if I could care a bit less about things but not everyone is able to, inside my head is constantly running even when I'm trying to sleep.
I'd love to be able to unwind.
I have also worked with a couple of can't be arsed colleagues and had to pick up the slack and it's not fun.
On contrast I've also worked for jobsworths who make life bloody miserable.
Somewhere in between would work.
I do worry how people keep up the pace when they get older, I'm exhausted now.

I've got to admit I sometimes come home late really tired after a nightmare or a day and look at my cat chilled on the sofa and think that's the life, bring me back as a cat please.

While I do agree, the government isn't going to let us take our foot of the gas so onwards we go, we can't even retire this day and age and I'm not religious but I'm sure whoever created this life didn't intend it to be the way it is.

Said someone who it appears has led a charmed life or had incredible family support and upbringing or is goady.

I guess that's a choice you make at the end of the day. I guess ignorance is bliss.

I am the same as you, OP. Nothing whatsoever has ever been resolved with worrying. Some things will go away/come by themselves, some things require concrete action. None of the things in life require worry and rumination, least of all perceived judgement of others.

What so live like a man then?

I totally agree but it’s generally something big at the back of someone’s mind that is getting them stressed over something that isn’t stressful

"Is there really anything wrong with not worrying about what other people think or what others might say, "

Not unless you're doing things that cause other people harm, no.

stop worrying about whether it's OK to not worry what others might say or think about you not worrying and you'll stay nice and worryfree

Tend to agree, bit not always easy.
Agree your a long time dead so try to enjoy.

Depends what kind of life you have. I would say some people have to take life seriously just to survive. Catching a small blow up dinghy across the English Channel for example, is not a decision you make lightly.

I've been thinking this for years, I don't stress the small stuff, I think as you get older you do tend to adapt this attitude, and when I worked in a care home I'd often here stories of making memories and good times because that's all you've got in the end.

Any older person will tell you this
Life's about learning and that's the last lesson.

I had a close encounter with death in 2022 and it changed my perspective on life.
I started to appreciate all the little things and what I had in life and stopped worrying about what I didn't have.

Family is important and friends everything else is just extra.

I leaned just to be content in life because I am lucky to be here and see my children grow up.

I stopped caring what others think years ago after realising you can't please everyone all the time.

To be honest I think your opinion comes from a place of privilege . It must be nice to come from a place that problems are not really that important . Thank your lucky stars .

"Americans think life is serious but not hopeless; the English that life is hopeless but not serious.”

― Amanda Craig, Hearts and Minds

Quite the opposite, I think the less you have the less you need, I've never been privileged at all. I just wonder why people do it to themselves.
Some people go from stressing about one thing to another all their lives and others glide through with the same worries they just don't let it get to them.

I know what you mean. Sometimes I look at my friends and very few of them actually seem happy. It’s a bit baffling and quite tiring sometimes as well.