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Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 12:45

Allow students to be taken out of school for two weeks a year without penalty? I know each school is different but resent government’s directive to toughen up on attendance really grating on my nerves. Now, my children have 98% attendance, bar a few days for illness and docs appt I’ve always taken them on holiday during the break. However a lot of families simply cannot afford even a caravan break. A week in Cornwall in a caravan for £2000?!? Really?! A lot of places in the world do not have such strict guidelines and I, for one, has always been an A+ student even though we were travelling a lot. So I find the argument that 100% attendance is the main factor for children to succeed in their education pretty silly. Parental involvement is by far the most important factor. But teaching people how to be involved in their children’s life whilst working the said people to the ground is too tough. Rant over, thank you for reading 😅

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CheeseSleaze · 03/05/2024 16:34

Those mentioning teachers taking their DC out. When you sign up to be a teacher, you already know you work term time. You chose to accept those terms and are well aware that you won’t take holidays in term time.

On the flip side, parents who choose to take their DC out for holidays, should do so with the knowledge that it is not on the teacher to catch their DC up. Teachers should also not be expected to up their work load to send home work for DC going on holiday. The point is, it should be a parents choice.

The new rules will not affect the rich. Go figure.

ThursdayTomorrow · 03/05/2024 16:36

No. Totally unfair on the teacher to try and have to catch them up - so much extra work.
OP your suggestion that parents can just look at the curriculum and teach the child themselves is unreasonable. How will you know which parts to teach - you will need to teacher to give you a handout with it on. More work for the teacher to have to generate and print out 2 weeks worth of work for each child.
Do you know how to teach maths concepts for example? Do you have the right concrete resources at home? If the initial concept is taught wrongly or missed, that is really hard to undo.
Holidays are a nice luxury but not essential. Plenty of families do not go away on holidays each year. I am a TA and we certainly don’t go on holiday every year as we can’t afford it. Neither did I go away every year when I was a child. We are no worse off for it - we had a lovely time at home, maybe doing a few day trips.
People saying their child learns so much from holidays abroad are being very selective. The majority of children who go abroad are just eating ice creams by the pool.

KnickerlessParsons · 03/05/2024 16:37

It's unworkable. In a school year of about 30 weeks, with 30 kids in a class you'd have two off on average every week. Or you'd have loads of kids off in the summer all at the same time. Schools can't function like that.

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 16:45

Some interesting points here.

would you be ok with your teacher doing the same? Well what if our teacher is ill for a week? What if it happens during the critical time? Isn’t it why so many schools become academies nowadays? Teachers are also the only profession to have the whole summer holidays off.

you’ve agreed to it when you signed up your children for school. Yes, also NHS staff knew about pay and workload and so did train drivers and teachers. We can demand better work/life conditions.

some people don’t give a sht about their children. *indeed, and some parents are also responsible for the children’s obesity crisis here in the UK. Shall we fine those too?

Why should teachers pick up the workload and teach twice? They shouldn’t. They should just move on. Works in plenty of countries, EU and non-EU. It’s the parents who can support their children during those couple of weeks.

the OP just wants to sip cheap booze by the sun. Please do not project.

now for other interesting points

what do fines actually achieve? People have been taking their children out of school and lying or paying fines anyway. People whom these fines supposed to punish (as in those who don’t care about their children’s education) will still not care. As we can see from some of the posts here the system is not really supporting those who are behind. So what do these fines actually achieve?

Responsible adults can make responsible decisions and decide for themselves based on their family circumstances. Allowing people to have this flexibility doesn’t mean that they will definitely use it. Although even a week would be nice, many won’t be able to pay for two weeks anyway. And those responsible people also have jobs and therefore have holiday allowance themselves. To add, anyone with a half braincell will not take their child on holiday during critical times.and if they do then a weeks holiday is really not their biggest problem.

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HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 03/05/2024 16:48

No, you want everyone else to pay for your childs education, so you have to follow the rules to get that benefit.

You knew the rules when you registered your children to get that freebie, so follow them and keep your child in school unless they are sick.

The world doesn't revolve around you, just because you are too cheap to actually take on full (or any) financial responsibility for your children.

How much more charity than a free education for a dozen years do you actually think other people in this country should pay for?

Why should you take the piss out of every tax payers forced donation to your children, just so you can have a holiday that is only cheaper BECAUSE your children are supposed to be in school?

razorbladethroat · 03/05/2024 16:51

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 16:45

Some interesting points here.

would you be ok with your teacher doing the same? Well what if our teacher is ill for a week? What if it happens during the critical time? Isn’t it why so many schools become academies nowadays? Teachers are also the only profession to have the whole summer holidays off.

you’ve agreed to it when you signed up your children for school. Yes, also NHS staff knew about pay and workload and so did train drivers and teachers. We can demand better work/life conditions.

some people don’t give a sht about their children. *indeed, and some parents are also responsible for the children’s obesity crisis here in the UK. Shall we fine those too?

Why should teachers pick up the workload and teach twice? They shouldn’t. They should just move on. Works in plenty of countries, EU and non-EU. It’s the parents who can support their children during those couple of weeks.

the OP just wants to sip cheap booze by the sun. Please do not project.

now for other interesting points

what do fines actually achieve? People have been taking their children out of school and lying or paying fines anyway. People whom these fines supposed to punish (as in those who don’t care about their children’s education) will still not care. As we can see from some of the posts here the system is not really supporting those who are behind. So what do these fines actually achieve?

Responsible adults can make responsible decisions and decide for themselves based on their family circumstances. Allowing people to have this flexibility doesn’t mean that they will definitely use it. Although even a week would be nice, many won’t be able to pay for two weeks anyway. And those responsible people also have jobs and therefore have holiday allowance themselves. To add, anyone with a half braincell will not take their child on holiday during critical times.and if they do then a weeks holiday is really not their biggest problem.

Your levels of critical thinking are really not coming across well here, OP

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 16:52

@HumanRightsAreHumanRights except none of what you said is actually correct. Because in that instance everywhere around the world would be the same. In every more or less developed country the education is free. Actually, UK teachers are paid pretty well by the world standards. And rightfully so. You absolutely can ask for better work/study/life conditions.

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Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 16:56

@razorbladethroat enlighten me then?

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Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 17:33

Tristar15 · 03/05/2024 14:39

Responsible adults who can’t spell ‘there are’. ‘There’re’ isn’t a word.

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here https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/topics/zqhpk2p/articles/z3cxrwx hope there’re is settled. Oh and Oxford dictionary. To add, English is not even my third spoken language 😉

How to use their, they’re and there - BBC Bitesize

Learn what homophones are and specifically the difference between there, their and they're in this KS1 English BBC Bitesize guide.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/topics/zqhpk2p/articles/z3cxrwx

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Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 17:40

MrBouc · 03/05/2024 14:20

Op, you have misunderstood what is happening here. You are putting forward a logical argument, but the reason behind this isn't to do with logic, or the fact that involved, educated parents are perfectly capable of filling in the minuscule gap in knowledge from a child missing a couple of weeks of primary school, the reason is that they can't outwardly be seen to differentiate between types of family.

They are using this as a way to attempt to crack down on truancy, an attempt to force into compliance those families where school isn't really seen as something you do unless you have a good reason not to. I don't know enough about it, but presume that those in charge feel that it's more beneficial to do something about truancy, and if they have to annoy a whole sway of parents, whose children would be in school regardless, then so be it.

An irritating part of the whole debate, in my opinion, is that there are a proportion of children, be it due to SEN, or mental health for example, who find attending school a real struggle, and whose parents would really love for their attendance to improve, however this is a much more complex problem to solve.
The holiday issue is relatively easy way for a government to improve overall attendance because a good number of parents self regulate and are natural rule followers.

I know what you mean because where I live you can take a holiday when you like, but it's up to the parents, or the students when older to catch up. If you don't, especially when older you risk not passing the school year, so it's a big incentive.

@MrBouc sorry just read your post. I understand what you’re saying but at the same time I’m always up for a debate. Actually think you’re right, nothing will be done but at the same time it’s not really working the way it is.

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Mookie81 · 03/05/2024 18:17

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 13:29

@HugeCwtch children of families with parents who don’t give a sh*t are going to suffer weather these fines exist or not. I think it’s pretty obvious.
about the families in our school I don’t see how its pertinent to the discussion.

It's whether, not weather.
Maybe you shouldn't have taken time out of school for holidays.

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 18:18

@Mookie81 thanks 🙏 anonymous person on the internet whose phone never does predictive texts

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TitaniasAss · 03/05/2024 18:24

Actually, UK teachers are paid pretty well by the world standards.

😂

frankentall · 03/05/2024 18:27

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 13:00

How do you guys manage when you away and your work keeps on working? You may have a few later nights to make sure that you go over your inbox, you may want to tie all the things up before you go on holiday. You know, reasonable things. I think there’s no reason why can’t children have the same.

Work (unless you are teacher of course) isn't remotely comparable with school. You idea is a recipe for chaos.

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Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 18:31

@frankentall hmmm… example for illustrative purposes? Of course it’s not directly comparable! But the majority do the gist

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Ponoka7 · 03/05/2024 18:31

I certainly think that there should be more flexibility, especially for pupils were the time off wouldn't have a negative effect. At the same time work on safeguarding the pupils whose parents can't be bothered to get them to school and are keeping them off because they are covering up partying/DV. My GC will be getting phoned in sick this month. The teacher won't have to putting any extra time for them to catch up.

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 18:35

@Ponoka7 couldn’t agree more!

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CoatRack · 03/05/2024 19:27

Crumpleton · 03/05/2024 14:17

🤣🤣

Never took my children out of school in term time for any reason other than illness.

But you keep making up your own clap trap and read into it what you like.

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Wasn't talking about the kids.

Crumpleton · 03/05/2024 19:38

CoatRack · 03/05/2024 19:27

Wasn't talking about the kids.

Your ignorance knows no bounds...

I don't often look at posters past comments on other threads but some of your replies show me that words do infact speak louder than actions.

Enjoy your evening.

Phineyj · 03/05/2024 20:03

If your policy came into effect then some kids would be taken out of school for two weeks. They wouldn't get taken on holiday or anywhere else. They'd just miss two weeks. And who's to say they'd come back?

As you were not educated here you probably don't know, understandably, that term time holidays used to be at the discretion of the head teacher.

So she could e.g. grant absence for a family where e.g. both parents were paramedics and couldn't get time off together otherwise, or where there was a family wedding overseas, or whatever. While denying permission where she thought it wasn't wise.

That's the policy we need back. Not your mad idea. Schools are struggling hugely with absence as it is and there are 13 weeks of school holiday. 13!

Mookie81 · 03/05/2024 21:09

I don't catch them up.
They have access to homework posted online, the parents can do that. I'm not providing extra work, and the topic and planning moves along with or without them. We don't have time for special catch up for kids taken out for holidays!
And before someone starts, children off for long periods sick are provided with work.

Somethingneedstobedone · 03/05/2024 21:26

@Phineyj why wouldn’t they return? Anyone can homeschool without giving any reason… and they might not return after summer which is longer…?

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BettyBoobles · 03/05/2024 21:28

I'm a teacher and I will happily sign it.