Sister and spouse, both of whom I love dearly, came and stayed with me for 4 months with their 10 year old while their property was being renovated. Spouse works, cleans, shops, helps with homework. Sister cooks, is terribly untidy and messy, sets no boundaries for herself or son (e.g., they co-sleep and wake up past 10am when ever possible and go to bed at 11pm), watch inane YouTube clips for hours. Sister and spouse constantly undermine each other, both in denial about the responsibility they each have to make things work. Spouse yells, screams and pulls most of the weight at home. Sister disengaged, constantly moaning (nothing new), believes she deserves a better life but makes no attempt to reach it. They have no issues with money or health (mental/physical). I can't bare to watch. Sister constantly whines to me about how dysfunctional spouse is and I'm tired of listening. Now that I've seen first hand how they operate I feel they are both to be blamed and yes, I have formed opinions. Am I being unreasonable for telling things as I see it?