To not want to hear about colleagues holiday?

[beenoutontheopenroad]

I’m genuinely baffled as to why she’s messaging me whilst still on holiday. Of course I want her to enjoy her time etc but why do I need constant updates of what she’s doing. I also wouldn’t say we’re friends, just acquaintances.

I try to naturally end the conversation and just like the messages now - but then 10 minutes later she’ll send a further message to try and keep the conversation going.

I’d get it if she was solo travelling and just wanted someone to tell but she’s with a friend.

Are you jealous?

Maybe she wants to be friends and is trying to make a connection?

I think it is a case of you being more important to her than she is to you. Are they customised messages, actually answering to something you have said or are they round robin messages? If you aren´t interested, just silence her.

She's presumably just being friendly. You don't have to reply to everything she sends.

Well I’d rather be on holiday sure. But also who like someone constantly bragging either

PassingStranger · Today 11:26
Are you jealous?

I'm very weird by modern judgement...I'm a freak who doesn't like travel or holidays. I NEVER want to hear about other people's holidays but it's not because I'm jealous.

I've sat through dinner parties where people talk of nothing else, and then just as there's a chance of a change of subject, some annoying person will continue to interrogate the traveller on how they booked, what discounts they got, insurance, car hire, hotels, excursions etc etc. I lose the will to live!

Yes, OK, I have enjoyed some trips but I don't talk about them unless asked. But of course, if your holiday has been disastrous in an amusing way, then fair enough - I think people will want to hear about it!!!😂

(I'm not a philistine - it's just that I hate mass-tourism and have been near-traumatised by the sheer numbers of people at some fragile places. I was there for work, not by choice, so wasn't wilfully adding to the problem.)

Maybe the friend she’s gone with is texting a partner all the time and she wants someone to text too. Not that that’s your problem though.

Yes it sounds to me she's not having the great time she's saying she is if she is constantly texting you. Possibly texting all her friends/ acquaintances as well?
Perhaps her and her pal aren't a great duo together.

My friends and I exchange texts whilst on holiday unless it's important or we weren't aware the other was on holiday, so I would find this weird.

Sending messages dosent mean bragging at all.
You obviously are a it green.

My friends and I exchange messages while we’re on holiday. Not just random updates - only if there’s something specific that we know the others will definitely find interesting or funny.

But they’re my close friends - not just acquaintances from work! If someone I only knew as a colleague to politely chat with in the office started sending me holiday snaps I’d think it was really odd.

Is there any chance she’s sending them to the wrong person?! She doesn’t have a friend with the same name as you or something, does she?

it can be tedious hearing about other people’s holidays and just the holiday talk in general!

I work with some guy who is constantly talking about either a holiday he’s just been on, or as soon as he’s back he’s talking constantly about his next holiday or how he needs holiday and talks about the potential deals he has found.

he talks of nothing else!

Did you miss the part where the OP said that these messages aren’t even from a friend? They’re from a colleague she isn’t actually mates with. She is being sent constant holiday messages by someone is who is just an acquaintance from work.

If you think that’s normal, and that the only reason the OP would find it bit strange must be jealousy, then I’m afraid you are the one who is ‘a bit green’, not her, because you’re failing to understand some pretty basic social norms.

People like this make me want to cry.

And as soon as you zone out they have the nerve to ask a question, so you have to pay attention to all of it.

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And we all know at least one of these

Is she OK? Does she normally message you much?

I'm not generally.muchbof a message and I certainly wouldn't be sending lots from holiday normally, but I do start "reaching out" when I'm struggling.

I’m not sure what “are a it green” means.

But in my opinion sending photos of your room, fancy restaurants, your daily schedule, telling me how much your skin looks incredible would (maybe not) fall into the braggy category.

You seem slightly obsessed with the fact that I’m jealous. When I already said sure in so far as I’d love to be on holiday right now (which numerous people are right now) but it doesn’t mean I’m not happy for someone to enjoy that experience. I just don’t need to constant updates.

Think they mean a “bit green”?

it’s weird and would stress me out with the pressure to reply. Just send something final like “looks lovely, look forward to hearing about it when you are back, enjoy!” Then disengage

Respond by holding down the message and giving it a like/thumbs up. She can't respond to that and hopefully gets the hint

Sounds like she just wants to be your friend. Just thumbs up if you don't want to engage then mute while she's away.

That is weird. It is possible she is sending them to the wrong person. Reply and say "hi stalker, it's beenout from work. The holiday pictures look lovely, but not sure you meant to send them to me 😁. Enjoy the rest of your break"

Hopefully she will get the hint.

I have occasionally sent pictures to people at work or friends if it's relevant to something we might have had a conversation about, but other than that I tend not to contact people when I am on holiday. I like the break.