Job interview

[Polkadot988]

I have a job interview next week after being unemployed for just over 4 years and raising my daughter as a lone parent. It’s a job that I’m very interested in and the hours and days are all ideal. However I’ve lost a lot of my confidence, I have around 2-3 stone that I want to lose and I feel like this will hinder my chances of being offered the job. Aibu to just turn down the interview and wait and apply for jobs when I feel more confident in myself

Nooooo!!! You can do this! If you want the job and nothings stopping you except your confidence you need to try. Remember its your skills they will be interested in not your body. You are more than an extra few pounds.
watch “fake it till you make it” a ted talk by Amy cuddy. Go for it 💕

Go to the interview. I wouldn't let your weight worries stop you.
I was interviewing people last week.
My concerns were could they do the job and would they work well in the team.
I also noted if they were suitably dressed ie clean and presentable. Weight was so not on my mind.
I understand that being out of the workplace knocks your confidence but think of the skills used being at home patience, resilience, time management etc.
You can do this.

To be blunt OP, it’s obviously unreasonable to turn down a job interview because you feel fat. Let alone a job that you may like and has good hours.

A LOT of people are a few stone overweight these days. Wear black if it makes you feel better and go to the interview.

At the very least think of this as practice. I know it’s easy to hide yourself away but you wouldn’t have been looking for jobs if you didn’t want to get out there.

Put your time and energy into preparing for this. Practice talking the answers you will give out loud. Don’t forget to smile and ask relevant questions about the role and the company.
Good luck op

Agree that you should see it as practice.

Please apply for the job, OP, if you want it.

Eye contact, smile, and focus on your values - what you will bring the role, not just the practical stuff, but values such as commitment, being a great colleague to work with, being able to support others, resilience from being a single mum, etc. Just think and reflect upon what will make you a great employee, and focus on these in your interview if you have the chance.

Go to the interview. They clearly think you’re good enough, otherwise they wouldn’t be wasting their time and yours to interview you. Good luck!!

You can do this lovely!

Just remember - working is FAR easier than solo parenting! Bring the energy.

The absolute worst thing that could happen would be that you’re in the same place tomorrow but with more experience of interviews!

^This exactly, you don't shortlist people who you wouldn't consider employing!

Go to the interview OP. They've obviously been impressed enough with your CV to offer an interview- most places don't waste time interviewing anyone who is inappropriate on paper, as the posters above have pointed out.

Is there anyone you could do a mock interview with to get some practice in? Try and have a think about the sort of questions that they might ask you so you can prepare for this.

Try to keep calm and you have every chance of doing well. Whatever happens, this will be good practice to hone your interview skills.

Good luck, you can do it

I interview most days, and a persons weight does not influence my decisions x

Absolutely! Just be neat and clean and you'll be reet.

They won't care what shape your body is, that's all you need to know. They're interested in your skills and attributes, and you've already impressed them.

As other have said, being presentable and dressing appropriately is what they'll notice about your appearance, not the dress size.

Like alot of other people have said in the comments, don't give up and if it doesn't work out its given you that experience of attending an interview and to focus on improvement for the next interview. I've been in a temp position the last few months and year doing different roles. At the moment I am dealing with a health issue (pneumonitis) I've still attended interviews and searching for roles and I've just been honest with them with my health, yes I didn't get offered the roles .....but I have been very lucky last week and was offered a role.....I thought the interview went really badly but from there feed back they have offered me the role. So please don't give up and if the interview doesn't go to plan there will be other interview opportunities

At worst.... it's interview practice. I always learn something from interviews.

At best.. you get a job that works round your dc. Maybe a new career?

Don't take away your opportunity to fly for fear of falling. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

I'm getting the impression you're using this as an excuse for a bigger reason...

Thank you everyone for your replies.

Well done on getting the job @silkiechicks ! Good luck with it all.

No bigger reason @C1N1C. I think it’s just my confidence has dropped massively and I tend to put myself down and I feel like if it goes badly then I’ll put myself down even more or make it 100 different reasons as to why I didn’t get the job and it will all be negative about myself!