I've name changed for this. Trying to keep it brief. My DF remarried (he had 2 more divorces following my DM), finally settled with his current wife about 18 years ago.
So I have a few siblings. Anyhow my DF has always treated his DC prior to his current marriage different and has done some awful things to me and siblings, nothing abusive just treated us not nice from a young age.
My other siblings have nothing to do with my DF, however im close to him. I made the decision that all parents make mistakes and I would move on. There have been things over the years that have upset me but I've just ignored it.
Anyway jump forward to now. My DF step daughter has just bought a house, turns out my DF and his wife gave her 190k for a deposit as her and her partner are low earners and couldnt afford what they want.
I'm annoyed on a couple of counts, worth also saying his DW has never worked so it's all his money:
- my DF has always been extremely wealthy and has never given a penny to us, but gives a lot to her, she has a lifestyle me and siblings never had
- he paid for her to go to private school, but not me or my siblings - even the ones who are the same age as her
- when I bought my house, he gave me 1,500
- I currently want IVF, my me and my DH are saving. I've told my DF I can't have another child without it and we can't afford it. He's never once offered to pay
I could go on and on, we (my siblings and I) have always been treated different to his step dc and DS with his current wife. He never used to take us on holiday, pay for tutors, uniforms etc all while they were living the highlife. My DM used food banks and he was driving a new Ferrari. That's just the surface there is a lot more too it.
But essentially am I BU, to be upset and feel like this is the straw that breaks the camels back for me ?