Bare with me I've changed my name as some people know me in real life on here-
I have a stepson nearly 12- I've had him from young with his dad recently he's been acting very very strange. He's normally a very good hood quiet and respectful and someone I trust alot to play out and be safe etc. recently since going to high school he was doing great then I'm getting calls 247 for his behaviour which is so crazy because he's really not that kind of kid, I know they can be influenced at a age but recently he's been going to bed at 6pm which is very unusual as he can never sleep normally , not going on his Xbox which again he was addicted too.. then he came in the other day from playing out his fingers stunk of cigarettes now as a step parent I can tell when he lies as he is very big on lying, he will lie about the finest thing that I assure him wouldn't of ever got him in trouble but he still will and he will take that to the grave with him. We asked why he smelled of cigarettes he did a nervous laugh face went dripping white and then looked like he was about to cry. Now my problem is he's starting to play off me and his dad, I don't like being too strict but there is boundaries I have other children in the house , I told his dad personally he wouldn't be going back out or have his phone till he can tell the truth the evidence is there he stunk of cigarettes what more do you want, I'm in hospital right now due to my waters trickling preterm labour and his sons took it upon himself to ask to play out and his dads let him as he knows if I'm not there his dad will let him do what he wants as he "can't prove it" I don't smoke anymore so I could smell that soon as he walked in never mind when I smelled his fingers. I just feel like the parenting is really working against me and Ive had enough I've brought him up no different than my youngest and never will treat him different but he really doesn't listen to me no more due to his dad giving him his way. I don't know what to do anymore am I being unreasonable??