wwyd - marriage breakdown

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Marriage is over. We are doing relationship counselling but its just a done deal in my head.

husband owns the house, it was his long before he met me, i am not named on mortgage etc. but i do give him money towards it. we have two young dc both under 5.

husband has been abusive and violent in the past. i should have left years ago tbh.

i work part time and do most of the chilcare. i dont have enough money for a deposit for a rental house, but i could manage private rent by myself with help from uc.

i could possibly get help from a dv charity, but it would mean going into emergency accommodation for god knows how long. we live in a big city so social housing is hard to get.

my head is spinning, i can’t decide which is the best way out. what would you do please?

yabu = private renr
yanbu = go into emergency accommodation

thanks!

I have no advice other than to say get this moved to relationships. There are some really knowledgeable posters on there, they will know what the best option may be. I hope all works out well

Speak to citizens advice. There are charities out there who can help you to raise a deposit. Emergency accommodation would be an option but bear in mind you really won't know what that accommodation looks like until you are offered it.
Get as much documentation together as you can. As much info on finances. The fact your dh owned the house out right does not mean you have no rights to any of it of you are married. Get a solicitor and start the ball rolling.
Good luck

Take proper legal advice about assets etc., but if he's been violent before please be careful. He may react badly when he realises its over.

Do nothing until you've spoken to a solicitor and you understand your options.