I warn you ladies this is going to be a long one, but please bear with me.
Ds1 is 9yrs old and the school he goes to has 4 white children, 3 asians and 3 mixed race children, the other 200+ are mainly black african. Now this has never been a problem to myself or my son until 2 yrs ago a girl said to him "Your white, you can get nits and you stink" now at the time he was 7 and replied with "if i stink cos i am white you stink cos you are black" when i collected him from school that day i was told by the head that he had been put in the book for racism, i was told exactly what both children had said, i asked if both had been put in the book and told "No the other child was making a childish comment" .....I asked head why the girl making a similar comment was not deemed racist but my son was? I am still waiting for an answer. I have since been to the school numerous times to ask for them to help with ds1 who is coming home in tears due to comments being made and kids hitting him....in simple terms being bullied. The outcome is it is still happening. The latest thing has had me riled for almost 3 weeks now. On 18th march i pick ds1 up early to see his face red raw down the right side,....he tells me adam has punched him repeatedly in the head face neck and shoulder..... i ask why, he said i made a comment to him last week and he didn't like it....errr do children plan attacks like this? |Did you make a comment i ask? No mummy i promise you i didnt.
I phone school next morning to say ds1 won't be in as i need to take him to dr's as he is in pain with head and ear, head says i can imagine he is, the attack was very violent but ds1 OBVIOUSLY said something to instigate it, I get off phone and write a long letter to school once again highlighting the problems in school. Also ds1 was put on report in January for commiting a major crime...... losing concentration at the end of the day...he is 9yrs old ffs. I read the report book and almost every page says the same, lost focus at the end of the school day, he needs to be careful what he says, and how he acts around his peers. Now i don't for one second think my son is an angel and innocent but he cant be responsible for every issue arising with him and other children when the class teacher has told me already, the main problem is because my mum works in the school.....and the children are wary of ds1. I have written as much in the report book and i will not sign it anymore it is fcking pointless so he is a 9 yr old child who at the end of the day loses focus, surely most children do don't they?
Back to the latest attack the comment he is supposed to have made which was not witnessed was "You bought your shoes in africa" the head says this is derogatory (sp) and has racial overtones. Please tell me if i tell someone they bought their shoes in italy is this also racist???????
am i being unreasonable in thinking the school are wrong to always blame my ds1 which is what they always do.