To find stories of people getting really drunk so boring?

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There's one woman particularly who I work with who is in her 40s and tells these long stories about how drunk she got and what she did when she was really drunk. I just don't care

That's awful. Does SIL realise it ruined the relationship? Does she regret it?

Exactly what I was thinking

I agree, it's boring in every age group.

I do not like to be around drunk people. I do not like heavy drinking in anyone. I think it is pathetic and they make fools of themselves

Unless you and her were drinking buddies/ she knew you liked a wee bevvy, it seems inappropriate. And I guess rather immature. I'm in my 40s and if I got that blasted I'd only share it with very close family or like one friend!
I guess it's her way of trivialising it, maybe seeking out if others will laugh, say they've done the same etc. yeah, she may well have a dependency issue.
Just roll your eyes and say, 'gawd, I don't want to hear another drunken escapade. What do you think about x' and move the subject on swiftly.

@Akamai she's played it down ever since saying she thought I must have lost them and was scared to admit it, that she never for one moment thought i stole them. I refuse to allow her that narrative. She said it over and over for hours. It ruined the day too.
I took a step back, no drama but it was at that point I felt I was never family. DH never doubted me.

What a coward she is. Glad DH backed you. Did you stop inviting her to things, did that upset her?

Yep. Trying to convince herself it's fun. Definite alcohol problem but I do think unless you're teetotal everyone is on the scale somewhere. It's a poison, it decreases your cognitive function, makes physical and mental and emotional health worse... It's an escape but not a good one. Used to be me. Hope she is ok and maybe one day seeks the help she needs.

Absolutely. There’s an underlying sadness to it.

I use to get drunk every weekend when I was younger, but then I took an extra part time job in a bar and it opened my eyes a lot. I couldn't stand the way people behaved when drunk, people I used to think were really great fun I hadn't noticed before because i was obviously drunk & rowdy too. I really hated the thought that I had ever been like that too. It wasn't just that though, it was the way other people would take advantage of their "friends" who had had a few too many, equally vile behaviour.

I like being drunk but on the very rare occasion that I am now I'm in my 40s, I try not to inflict my drunk self on sober people for too long as I know how boring it is.
My husband has a misty admiring sort of nostalgia for the era of "hellraisers" , even though they were dying out by the time he was old enough to go out drinking himself. Any time he starts shiteing on about Oliver Reed or whoever, I glaze over quickly and if he keeps on I just eye roll and say yes how enthralling it must have been to hang out with a bunch of dull rambling drunks whose "womanising" probably mostly consisted of groping and generally sex-pesting around unfortunate waitresses and such who had to pretend to enjoy it, and then stand watching them having pointless fights in bars or the street and wonder if they were going to turn up in a fit state to work the next day. Like, if they were living on a council estate in trackie bottoms this would be considered scummy, but because they were thespy raconteurs, darling, (and male, as it happens) it's supposed to be fabulous and they are such '"characters".

lol well that definitely told him 😁

Any rambling story about anything makes me glaze over tbh. Doesnt have to be a drunk story.

I had a boss who would pontificate for ages about his boring successes and how amazing he was. You just had to be his audience. It was truly draining.

You're 100% right, rambling on and on about any topic incessantly is tedious.

However, achieving business success is something I at least admire in a person- its a life achievement and I would probably ask questions about it (as I have a business too so am interested in successful people and how they got their success)

But getting drunk isnt an achievement at all - its something everyone can do given enough booze, its juvenile, and bragging about being sick over someone's shoes and falling down and injuring yourself just isnt funny, nor is it a life achievement. It's sad, degrading behaviour which makes it even more ridiculous to find it humorous and news - worthy.

I’ve often thought the Oliver Reed situation was a bit like the Emperor’s New Clothes. Reed was wheeled out on talk shows where everyone would laugh uproariously at the funny drunk man and I just used to think it was really, genuinely sad. He was so obviously in the grips of severe alcoholism but for a long time no one seemed to say so. It was just treated as entertainment.

In my boozy youth, there was an Oliver Reed in each of the local pubs. Alcoholics with silly nicknames: Aggie, Milso, Longdog… all of them were very unwell, looking back, but everyone else treated it all as a joke (as did I at the time being young and not knowing any better).

Yep totally

Hopefully the culture’s moved on a bit now and we recognise that it’s just sad and concerning when people are this unwell.

YABU.
My drunk stories are hilarious 🤣
I'm still living off ones from my youth though!
I'm 39 and can take or leave it these days.

True but this guy was a psychopath. His business success was always at the expense of some poor other person who he bested. I always felt really uncomfortable listening as I always felt so sorry for the person he had shafted, but he was my boss so I couldn't really express this. He was ruthless and horrible.

I hope so and I do think so. Trying to imagine someone repeatedly appearing on talk shows absolutely legless these days- I think a lot of viewers would see the problem straight away and TV companies and agents would have no choice but to take the ‘talent’ off air and try some interventions.