To think so many threads are fake because actual people are too scared to post?

[Iloveyoubut]

I see so many posts on here these days that are auire clearly made up for the drama or the laughs etc which is fine. However it seems to have become more common because genuine posters are being shot down in flames and torn to pieces for asking honest questions. One that springs to mind was an OP who was upset that her partner didn’t check in with her after what genuinley sounded like a harrowing day at work. Another ‘trend’ I’ve noticed is the Mumsnet vulture hovering over the new and unanswered posts so they can get in there first and be a right dick! I think I’m actually fascinated with the whole ‘first reply’ thing because so often the first poster reply is just horrible and it’s as if it’s a blatant attempt to ‘sent the tone of the post’ or instigate a pile on. I’m almost bracing myself or the ‘are you ok OP?’ Why do so many first replies seem to be so nasty? Are people trying to destroy OP’s so that everyone is scared to post?

There is a lot of victim blaming and my sense is that people do this as an ego defence.

This happens so often and it drives me insane. Just two or three posters furiously typing back and forth and making themselves look daft whilst hijacking the thread.

I sometimes think we need a 'stop arguing like children' symbol. Like the biscuit but for that scenario.

It's so tiring and unnecessary. But this is how it is. U can be on a thread, people might not agree but discussion is underway, people are being heard, solutions brokered. Then a couple of narky people pile on nitpicking everything and being generally nasty and infighting. I don't even open Any messages any more

this happens regularly in real life, it is not a MN phenomenon - with
added extraneous detail, veering from the basic plot, we realise many
listeners are not necessarily hearers who cannot digest more than
two facts at once, that they will lift the least meaningful throwaway
(shoes) incidental to quote.

This is a deflection, buying time, as they know a resolution to the question/quandry is beyond them

Lol. I got told off for this today! I was tempted to say "mind your business, I was talking to the OP not you, sticky beak" but then decided I was too grown up to bother.

Spiteful and not very bright. It's not a winning combination.