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Weirded friend out, should I apologise?

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Wavyhair77 · 30/04/2024 15:19

I've suffered a bit with self image lately, I'm trying to do what I can to feel better and I've just started medication.
I was talking to a male friend on WhatsApp and he could see that I was down. I ended up telling him I'd been struggling lately but that I knew it was irrational and that it would surely improve soon/sometimes we get in our head a bit.

He didn't reply and changed the subject, I do understand that. He likely didn't know what to say, it happens. However he's been very cagey since then and I guess I've weirded him out.

Should I apologise? He literally hasn't spoken to me since. Once he changed the subject I followed the new subject, I didn't mention it again.

We get told to talk to people when we're feeling down, but I guess that means only professionals. He's also talked to me about personal issues, and having to see the doctor, he didn't say what they were but I didn't ask.

Aibu? I just feel a bit embarrassed and this kind of thing makes me want to keep everything to myself.

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Shan5474 · 30/04/2024 18:10

What exactly did you say to him? I can’t really imagine you saying something soo weird that he felt he couldn’t reply at all and had to change the subject! Especially as it’s something you’re feeling down about, and he’s told you very personal stuff. I think you’d be unreasonable to apologise when you simply told the truth to your friend and he could’ve just said “sorry to hear that” or something very basic. I’d find another friend tbh

gettingbackonit23 · 30/04/2024 18:13

I think he probably didn’t know how to respond and I would struggle a bit too if a friend of the opposite sex was telling me how unattractive they felt as I wouldn’t want any response to be misinterpreted. I think if I were you I’d say I was struggling with depression or low self esteem rather than specifically mentioning looks.

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