AIBU to go on holiday?

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summerwentaway · 30/04/2024 11:10

My DP is receiving an inheritance and is paying for a home repair with this which needs done and costs around £25k. I don't have much in savings so can't really contribute to it but plan to pay him half back over time. He doesn't want to go on holiday this year but I do and was planning to go on a city break with a friend. Holiday would be about £1k and I plan to pay him back in installments over next few years but wondering if I am being unreasonable and should be giving him all my savings etc to pay him back as quick as possible but i work hard and really need a break. AIBU to go on holiday when he is paying for that?

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summerwentaway · 30/04/2024 21:41

ZipZapZoom · 30/04/2024 19:01

Yes but I took that to mean you felt like you wanted to contribute and give him some towards the repairs so you felt like you'd contributed but couldn't at present. Not that he expected you to actually pay half. The two are very different situations.

The whole way your relationship works around his and hers costs is just bizarre to me. If he inherited the money and you put in what you could afford that makes sense but that's not how you're doing things? At the point of owning a property surely money should just be joint.

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Apologies I see your point, should have worded it better. Yes I mean this is my first serious LT relationship so I don't have a lot of experience of how finances are split but it feels quite off to me in all honesty.

I don't want to be a freeloader or anything like that but I feel there should be a balance. Maybe I just have to grow up and accept there are sacrifices when it comes to owning a house.

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