To think this is a perfectly acceptable age gap?

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I'm a 24 year old woman, I have been speaking to a 21 year old man from OLD.

My best friend thinks it's inappropriate and the age gap is too wide.

AIBU to think that's absolutely ridiculous?

It's 3 years. It's absolutely fine.

Bloody hell if that's too big an age gap then none of us have a chance!

Absolutely fine!

its fine. Consider why she’s taking this @odd viewpoint?

21 and 24 is fine. Same stage of life.

Its not just the gap on years, its the gap in experience. So 21 and 28, but still at school, would be dodgier despite it still being 3 years.

I met DH when he was 23 and I was 26 and no one bat an eyelid. Nearly 20 years together

I met DH when he was twenty and I was twenty seven. Still together many DC down the line, thirteen years later.

I thought you were going to say much older. Three years younger is nothing.

It might be less the age gap and more her assumption of what a 21 year old man is like. But like with anybody, they are not a set personality type just because of their age.

21 and 24?! 3 years is nothing. As long as you are both happy and it's a healthy relationship, what's the issue? I was 23 when I got together with my partner who is 10 years older than me. Many things in the build up to us getting together made it feel so meant to be and 7 years later we're very happy together and getting married soon.
All I would say, from personal experience, is that women tend to mature more than men especially around your ages so you may find yourself in a different place to him as time goes on. This doesn't apply to everyone though obviously.

The amount of posts on here lately about OLD...I feel like it's people discreetly advertising it!

Yes, that age gap is far too massive. You should ideally be looking for someone with the same date of birth.

😂

Better not tell her my DH is 16 years older than me. We have been together 20 years!

Not an issue. I met DH when I was 27 and he was 24. Thirty three years and three children together. He sometimes likes to tease me about my age, but I can cope with that.

Is it because the man is younger she lifting an eyebrow?

It's totally fine.

There is 13 years between my and my husband, and about 19 for my sister and hers. Lol. I think you're fine OP.

Of course years is ok!

this current obsession by the younger generation over age gaps being weird and inappropriate is beyond strange.

WTF is going on?

Half your age, plus seven.

So in your case, he could be 19 and you'd still be in the clear.