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What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:33

Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

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godmum56 · 29/04/2024 22:00

Topsyturvy78 · 29/04/2024 21:36

It's up there with putting Lidl or Aldi shopping into Booths bags (we don't have Waitrose up north.)

I love Booths. We used to take holidays in Boothsland (I live way in the South) and I always made sure I got there as often as I could. Does that make me snobby?

StarlightLime · 29/04/2024 22:00

HRTQueen · 29/04/2024 19:35

ds and his year (year 2) had performed an array of east end London songs (I had wondered why he kept saying ‘av a banana’ but he said I would find out) along with a play about poor but happy east end people

it was excruciating little prep children pretending to be cockney 🙄 singing knees up mother brown and any old iron

after many of the parents were gushing at how marvellous and what super fun it was was this was only 10 years ago and I still cringe thinking about it

Don't get this one. What was the issue?

Iloveyoubut · 29/04/2024 22:01

A very posh woman calling to her dog in the park, Its name was Potterpea!

Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 22:02

godmum56 · 29/04/2024 22:00

I love Booths. We used to take holidays in Boothsland (I live way in the South) and I always made sure I got there as often as I could. Does that make me snobby?

Do you hide your aldi/lidl shopping in booths bags to keep up appearances?

If not, no.

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bringthecactusin · 29/04/2024 22:02

In a local curry house for a family birthday, and at the end of the meal I commented that the little packet hot towel wipes were good for bringing jewellery up to a nice shine. And my SIL said "Yes, but I'd like to see what it's like on real jewellery". 😮

And when my parents found out I was considering buying a terraced house they actually offered me a cash lump sum to NOT buy a terraced, because they didn't want me living near "those sorts of people". I know they were snobby but that was just outstanding!

ttcat37 · 29/04/2024 22:03

LLMn · 29/04/2024 21:33

Highly selective private? Usually private takes anyone who is silly enough to pay 30K for boarding.

It’s not silly if you can afford it…

merryhouse · 29/04/2024 22:03

Sunday at the end of Week 0, after the first Glee Club rehearsal of the year. First-year who'd signed up at the Fair the day before earnestly explained things to me.

"Well you see, there are the Henriettas and the Sharons. The Henriettas own their horses, while the Sharons spend their time mucking out and hope they'll get to have a ride on someone else's horse in return."

We never saw her again after that. I suspect Glee Club was not exactly as she expected. I don't remember her name, but she seemed a perfectly pleasant - if unobservant - person and I do hope she enjoyed her time at a Northern University Grin

I was once at a party in south manchester Northern Cheshire where a tradesman regaled us with how small child at school gates had said to him "I know you're not a very nice person because you drive a van"

Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 22:03

contrary13 · 29/04/2024 21:54

'Wait... you live on a council estate? I thought you were one of us...'

One of my then 5 year old son's friend's mothers. We live in a village, with a council estate to one side of it - which was all that I could afford to buy after my split from son's father (we were looking to buy together, but he got a 4 bedroomed house out of his parents assortment of buy-to-lets, and I had to fund a roof over our children's heads by myself...). We live in a very posh area. The village school was lovely and 5 minutes walk from our home, our bit of the estate was full of young families, a proper community, my kids could safely play out because everyone knew one another and where each child belonged. My son is 19 now and when he was attacked a few months ago on his way home from a night shift, four outraged mothers in pyjamas and slippers surged to get to him before I could (I'm disabled).

The other mother who made the above comment was shocked and horrified enough at the end of this playdate where I said "oh, yeah little Master Bloggs can come to ours next week..." - because I am a Professor in my field, because my son and I don't talk with the local accent, because we don't judge others based on post codes... that she tried to cull the boys friendship.

14 years later, they're still best mates (have just gone off to the MMA gym they frequent), I get a perverse kick in watching each new snob move she makes on SM (rescue dog from Greece - check!, ponies/horses that no one bothers to learn how to ride properly - check!, brand new Mercedes - check!, husband who is having an affair with his research assistant - oh, check that one in!) and waiting for her house of snobby cards to tumble.

Why? Because there is nothing wrong in living/raising a family on a council estate. My son was raised to understand that we don't judge others - or, if we must, at the very least, not to their faces. This woman lives literally opposite my house now - her son says she has no clue who their neighbours are, whereas... I know most of mine, because our kids grew up together, played out together, were watched over by a community. I might not have a horse anymore (that I knew how to actually ride, rather than just sit on), but I also don't choose my kids friends - and I feel so glad that I'm not 'one of them' across the road.

I do have a rescue dog from Greece, though. But she came into my life before that became a trend amongst the naice classes. I just say that she's a rescue... and leave it at that, if anyone asks.

I've never heard of this rescue dog from Greece thing!!

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TizerorFizz · 29/04/2024 22:04

@MichaelFlatulence Ever heard of “Overheard in Waitrose”? Popular with students at some unis around 12 years ago. “I’ve just got my tickets for the ball. Mummy is sending our butler with the family tiara”. Do you still believe everything you read? More loos than hot dinners in this house!

Weallknowfrogsgo · 29/04/2024 22:04

If I’m flying over 3/4 hours, I just HAVE to fly business class AT LEAST I can’t spend that much time confined with the masses

PinkTonic · 29/04/2024 22:04

“Oh you live on a street” from the mother of one of my children’s schoolmates.

godmum56 · 29/04/2024 22:04

Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 22:02

Do you hide your aldi/lidl shopping in booths bags to keep up appearances?

If not, no.

dammit! where can I get some Booth's Carriers? 😂

PS Lidl cured salmon with a sauce beats Waitrose gravadlax to pulp

RabbitsEars · 29/04/2024 22:05

‘… but are they [hushed tones] people like us?’

Projectme · 29/04/2024 22:05

Friend lived in block of flats...a guy who lived in next door flat to hers asked her for a date. She said no. She told me "...he CYCLES to work; he doesn't even have a CAR!!!!! How he thought I'd be interested in him god knows!" 😳

HawthornLantern · 29/04/2024 22:06

Iloveyoubut · 29/04/2024 22:01

A very posh woman calling to her dog in the park, Its name was Potterpea!

What’s snobbish here?

Chocolatepeanutbuttercupsandicecream · 29/04/2024 22:06

I do use M&S bags in other supermarkets 🙈but only cos I nabbed the good ones off my mum and I know they’re not going to collapse on me..

FrenchFancie · 29/04/2024 22:06

Don’t you like prada handbags?!?

as if this was a moral failing on my part and nothing at all to do with the fact I was scraping by on £14k a year as a trainee solicitor at the time.

my ex MIL. Ex for many many good reasons!!

Southlondoner88 · 29/04/2024 22:06

Oh loads when I was a nanny..

one mother I worked for asked me to pick up pastries from waitrose on school run, waitrose was out of the ones she requested so went to the much bigger tesco to get them. Well she was horrified.

Another mum boss, I met a lovely nanny and child in a park and the kids got on really well so thought it would be nice for the parents to stay in touch for birthday invites etc, asked mum if I could share their number and she seemed so distressed, asking me where they live, what they do ect? Then just sort of awkwardly exchanged numbers. A few days later the other nanny messaged me saying that my boss text this other child’s mum with loads of intrusive questions about their careers and what university they went to.

I don’t come from the UK so I wasn’t used to this classist behaviour, took me years to understand what this was about.

HRTQueen · 29/04/2024 22:09

StarlightLime · 29/04/2024 22:00

Don't get this one. What was the issue?

the parents reaction to their privileged children playing into the idea of poor people being happy they are poor

it wasn’t the children’s fault I just thought most people had more awareness it just was crass

Mr Cholmondley-Warner came to mind (maybe look that up especially the one when he goes to the east end)

Broodywuz · 29/04/2024 22:10

Friends brother got a new girlfriend and friend and her mum were invited to a pamper party, Avon or the like. Friend said I don't mean to be a bitch but I honestly have just never met people like that.

Ilovelblue · 29/04/2024 22:10

Years ago, I was running a training course with a group of people who didn't know each other and I started off with the icebreaker "What would you do if you won the lottery?" We had all the usual things about giving up work, buying a desert island etc etc and one woman said "I already take four foreign holidays a year and only buy designer clothes, so what would I need if I won the lottery". She didn't really make any friends on my training course that day!

JustBec · 29/04/2024 22:10

“I just don’t think the sort of people who need affordable housing will be comfortable living in our village “
After all other objections to an affordable housing project had been exhausted.

RosesAndHellebores · 29/04/2024 22:11

"We were lucky enough to be invited to Glyndebourne in the summer. It's one of perks of sending one's son to Eton. The parents of their chums are so generous." I kid you not.

oakleaffy · 29/04/2024 22:13

Dustpantsandbush · 29/04/2024 21:47

“We have sooo much money we just don’t know what to do with it, it’s utterly awful.”

I knew of an elderly man {Inherited a lot of filtered down wealth} he used to say this.

He was targeted by gold diggers, male and female- It was very sad.

People did very well out of his lonely generosity {think £400,000 flat just given to someone} plus other stuff.

If you inherit money...never tell anyone.

surreygirl1987 · 29/04/2024 22:13

sosickofbeingskint · 29/04/2024 18:48

Estate agent, on hearing my budget - looked me up and down, and said "Sorry we only deal with the better end of the market" - strong emphasis on better Hmm

I did manage to get a flat for the money I had, not that far from her estate agents, in an up and coming part of town. Over the time I was there, prices went through the roof as it became a v. desirable place to live for one reason and another. Did I use her agents to sell it? Did I fuck!

I should have gone in there, all Perry Woman-esque and refused to let her sell it, shouldn't I Grin

Big mistake! Huge!

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