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What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:33

Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

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pambeesleyhalpert · 29/04/2024 19:46

I cannot go 6 months without a holiday. I'm just not doing it. Said by my husband. I couldn't stop laughing

TinkerTiger · 29/04/2024 19:48

Furrydogmum · 29/04/2024 18:17

Re a motorway breakdown, "Of course the police came back to us quickly, we're a young middle class family in a Volvo!"

I would have had second hand embarrassment from hearing that

Librarybooker · 29/04/2024 19:50

Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 19:07

I was at work one day when it was heavily snowing. I shared an office with my boss (S) and a few other people. One of the other bosses (C) was having difficulty getting her car out and there were no taxis so she was getting - HORROR of HORRORS - a bus!!

My boss was horrified that she would have to get a BUS and kept saying POOR C, she has to get a BUS in this big exaggerated voice like she couldn't beleive it. She kept ringing C and asking if she was alright and making fun of her like it was SUCH an ordeal "So how is the BUS? Are there any smelly people on the bus today? Hahaha" and then when she arrived she was hailed like some sort of hero and everyone was offering her lifts home so she didn't have to go through such a horrific ordeal again.

I did not drive, I got a bus every day, and C lived two roads away from me. S was saying all this while sitting on the desk right next to me. Guess I'm a smelly bus wanker then.

Edited

When our DC was at a private school, I arrived for pickup having had a short day out in London. It’s only 50 mins on the train from here. It was the first day out I’d had since DC had started school so I was saying how I’d enjoyed my me time. One of the other mum’s said she couldn’t go on trains and share travelling compartments with other people that she basically didn’t know where they’d been 🤣

It didn’t go down well as some parents were commuters and rest of us just thought she should get a life

Perfectpots · 29/04/2024 19:55

NCT group
'I'm so pleased I know someone with their own swimming pool, Emilia's 6 months so should really go swimming but I couldn't bear the thought of her in a public leisure centre pool.'

Curlyblondefemale · 29/04/2024 19:55

A friend of my husband talking about what secondary school to choose.. Son really wants to go to certain school and it's a really good school but I've had to say no because they let children from the council estate in.
Notice I've said husbands friend, I think she's a dick.

pudseypie · 29/04/2024 19:57

A friend of mine when we were both pregnant with our first children said she'd chosen NCT classes as she would meet a better class of people there, like accountants and doctors and you just couldn't risk the NHS antenatal course for the type of people on it.
I let her know that I was in fact, attending the NHS one. She changed the subject fairly quickly.

Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 19:57

Furrydogmum · 29/04/2024 18:17

Re a motorway breakdown, "Of course the police came back to us quickly, we're a young middle class family in a Volvo!"

I would take this to be a dig at the police.

Like "of course they came to us, we look like the sort of people they want to help, they wouldn't have bothered if we were in a souped-up corsa and wearing tracksuits"

My lovely cousin once said something similar after shoppers helped her when she was taken ill in a supermarket "of course they helped me, I'm a middle class white woman" and she was definitely expressing disgust at noone helping her with a homeless man having a heart attack a few months before.

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lovecafeaulait · 29/04/2024 19:58

I have got another one!

This was from a woman I know professionally, while chatting about her privately educated child. Her child was about to start studying in a very prestigious Uni in a town (think Oxford) near which they have a lovely country house. I asked whether her child, being so close to the country home, might sometimes visit it with his Uni friends for weekends and she replied "Well, I am not sure, we don't want these students coming from state schools destroying the house". I was mortified. I went to state school. I could not believe what she had said. I wonder whether she didn't actually mean it, but I found it very very snobbish and rude.

Clawdy · 29/04/2024 19:58

I was doing a teaching practice years ago as a student teacher. The school was in a very deprived area. One of the other students was a rather posh boy who seemed to be enjoying his time there, but he was talking about a little girl in his class and he said "She has a middle class face."
"What on earth is a middle class face?" I said.
" Well...erm....quite a few of these working class children have.....sort of Germanic features...." he stammered awkwardly, seeing how shocked I was.
I didn't speak to him again!

Louloulouenna · 29/04/2024 19:59

“The thing you have to remenber about XXXX is that he went to Harrow, not Eton”. Still don’t really know what they meant!

ClareWilsonNS · 29/04/2024 20:00

When I was at Manchester Uni, the mum of a girl on my corridor came into the communal kitchen to meet us. I had noticed this girl's accent was much posher than mine, pure home counties, and obviously so was the mum's. Posh mum said she couldn't believe the rows of terraced housing she had seen from the train as they pulled in to Manchester. "So awful. Like the slums you see on the credits of Coronation Street."

iffyi · 29/04/2024 20:00

AngryBird6122 · 29/04/2024 17:36

We will be sending her to private school, I don’t want her ending up anorexic or in a gang

more likely to end up either of those things in a private school tbh!

OhYoko · 29/04/2024 20:01

My Granny said this, she's one of the worst people in the world and a huge and unrepentant snob:

"Of course when we moved here [slightly "nicer" London area but by no means Kensington] it was all bank managers and headteachers, top drawer people, like us, with our mindset."

My Granny was a clerk in an office and my Grandpa worked in a DIY shop. They were both bought up in houses with outdoor toilets and my Granny once pretended she didn't know her brother in public when she was with a work colleague because she didn't want her workmate to know she was "related to someone with sailor tattoos". My Granny is a real Hyacinth Bucket.

TizerorFizz · 29/04/2024 20:03

My DD as a 5 year old liked singing. We went to a lunch party where neighbours and not so close neighbours came along too. The DD of the hosts taught DD a couple of Spice Girls songs. DD was then persuaded to sing them! Not my idea and I didn’t know it was going to happen. DD made a decent attempt but afterwards a dad from our village asked me where DD went to school. I told him it was the local village school. He turned to his wife and said” we had better make sure our E doesn’t go there then”. We avoided them after that and DD carried on singing with a choral scholarship at Oxford.

Doyouhonestlyexpectmetobelieve · 29/04/2024 20:03

Sadly the snob here was me (inadvertently) .. my lovely colleague messaged our group work chat to announce she was leaving to be a 'nanny' .. I was gobsmacked, she's a fairly well paid senior civil servant..

I messaged immediately and said how sorry I was she was leaving as she is so good at what she does and then added - ' I nannied for a summer before Uni, it's such hard work for quite low pay - what made you decide to change career ?

Of course .. she meant she was leaving because she was going to be a grandmother and wanted to help provide childcare for her new gc.. cue LOTS of piss taking of me and my middle class-ness which was deserved ..

TellerTuesday · 29/04/2024 20:03

I worked in a restaurant as a teenager, the name was 'Sally's' (not the real name) a middle aged lady used to work on the till for 3 hours on a Sunday as 'a little job' her husband was a car dealer.

Occasionally people would ask her if she was 'Sally' and she would reply "oh no lovey, we have a garage"

Always made me laugh to think people would envisage the garage attached to her house.

Pleasegodgotosleep · 29/04/2024 20:05

When at a graduate recruitment event (held before i fished hons year and graduated) I mentioned something about my part time job. One if the other potential recruits looked at me aghast and asked extremely loudly
"you work while you're at university??? Are you incredibly poor?"

I told him I would be, if I didn't work!!

Ironically we both ended up getting places on the graduate programme...but he didn't make it through probationary period and I worked there in various roles for 17 years 😅

lightsandtunnels · 29/04/2024 20:07

My sister after we'd been out shopping on pay day. We came home on the bus and just before we got off at our stop she told me to take all the individual bags out of the one bag I'd put all my stuff in so the neighbours could see everything we'd bought. LOL this was years ago and she's still a massive selfish snob 🙄

TribeofFfive · 29/04/2024 20:09

Squirrelsnut · 29/04/2024 19:29

I worked in a posh private school. A colleague asked in a meeting for staff to accompany a choir trip to.....(stifled laughter)..Sheffield! Many colleagues smirked and rolled their eyes.

I don’t get it?

pimplebum · 29/04/2024 20:09

*TurtleMoon
A recent one, when discussing whether we'd always wanted to go into our chosen vocation. Colleague says, "No, I wanted to travel and see the world first". Which would be fine, if it weren't for the fact that she said it to our proudly WC, raised by a single-mum, self-made colleague, who got a 6K bursary and is still paying off her student loan 20 years later. She was Not Impressed.

How is that snobbish, though?

Yeah I don't get it either? How is wanting to travel snobby?

MissAmbrosia · 29/04/2024 20:12

Maybe not so much snobby as such, but out with NCT group for dinner one night, the woman next to me said "My house is unfortunately SO large, I can't justify putting the heating on just for me during the day when the others are out at school/work. Brrrr" To which i could think of no response but "Oh" with an attempt at a sympathetic raise of the eyebrow whilst embracing an inner WTAF :)

BlancheSaysYes · 29/04/2024 20:13

When my son was a baby, I was invited by another mother at baby group, for lunch at her house. All very nice. When I got there, she gave me a grand tour of her large detached home, described herself as landed gentry, and referred to the middle-aged woman cooking lunch as 'my girl from the village.' She was also shocked that I hadn't employed a maternity nurse after my son was born because she couldn't imagine what it must have been like. A lasting friendship did not materialise.

wompwomp · 29/04/2024 20:15

AngryBird6122 · 29/04/2024 17:36

We will be sending her to private school, I don’t want her ending up anorexic or in a gang

This one is weird. I suspect higher levels of eating disorders at all girl's private schools.

LakeTiticaca · 29/04/2024 20:15

Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:42

I've hears such wierd things about how army families behave towards one another because of rank

Edited

Yeah and the wives are the worst offenders 😅

CarInsurance · 29/04/2024 20:16

Where I live the ex council houses go for about £600k so we don't get that kind of comment!

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