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What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:33

Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

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JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 11:49

Hoppinggreen · 30/04/2024 09:17

Some bits of The North but they arent as prolific here.
Only in the posh bits

They're hardly in the worst areas in the south, they can't afford to be!

tillytoodles1 · 30/04/2024 11:51

My totally normal friend married a wealthy man and changed completely. She started to speak differently, wore Country Casuals (remember them) all the time and started to make friends with the other mums at her daughter's posh school. One day I heard her on the phone telling her new friend she'd love to come to her "splosh and nosh" party for her daughters birthday. She explained to me that is was a pool party with food at her friends house. Why not just call it a birthday party?

mondaytosunday · 30/04/2024 11:51

Y'all should watch Palm Royale (even just for the magnificence of 91 year old Carol Burnett).

JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 11:53

Applescruffle · 30/04/2024 09:18

I've just been discussing this thread at church coffee morning with a couple of the mums. They've reminded me of a couple of snobby things seen in church.

Some people think it's is absolutely VILE to put only coins on the collection plate. You must put notes or it's just embarrassing. This isn't because they think they should donate more, just that donating less is embarrassing.

As the church Treasurer who has to count it all up I can support this or at least nothing under a 50p piece!
I can always tell when there's been a Christening or a family service, lots of smelly copper coins. I can recall hating the smell of copper coins in my sweaty palm even when I was a child.

transformandriseup · 30/04/2024 11:53

An old boss of mine said she hated it when the checkout staff in the supermarket tried to start a conversation as they couldn't possibly have anything in common to talk about.

FourSteeples · 30/04/2024 11:53

tillytoodles1 · 30/04/2024 11:51

My totally normal friend married a wealthy man and changed completely. She started to speak differently, wore Country Casuals (remember them) all the time and started to make friends with the other mums at her daughter's posh school. One day I heard her on the phone telling her new friend she'd love to come to her "splosh and nosh" party for her daughters birthday. She explained to me that is was a pool party with food at her friends house. Why not just call it a birthday party?

This is a bit silly. I mean, wealth is also ‘totally normal’, and ‘splosh and nosh’ sounds cringingly LMC aspirational if anything.

FourSteeples · 30/04/2024 11:54

chci · 30/04/2024 11:48

Has anyone here called someone out on their snobbery?

Often.

Imgoingtobefree · 30/04/2024 11:55

A long time ago my then husband and I went to visit my mum.

We were in a quiet cafe, the three of us sitting around a small table chatting.

There used to be a programme called Come Dancing on the Tv which was about Showroom Ballroom dancing. Men in tuxedos and women in frothy dresses covered in sparkles.

My mum was telling my husband how I had loved to watch it for the ‘pretty dancing ladies’ when I was a child.

He replied that he had never seen it, but his parents had said it was the sort of thing the “milkman and his wife would watch”.

Another time my husband had reconnected with a couple of school friends. They were all in our kitchen and my husband said “we should all get together and invite the wives along”.

One of the men whose wife was a high earning banker (he wasn’t and didn’t do much himself) replied “no, my wife doesn’t ‘do’ housewives”. I was standing right right next to him!

chci · 30/04/2024 11:56

FourSteeples · 30/04/2024 11:54

Often.

What was the result?

Hellendegenerate · 30/04/2024 11:56

I think I must be a snob.

I moved into my present house which is small but has a large garden.

Yes there's room for a pony 🐎

sockarefootwear · 30/04/2024 11:57

BlueMoanday · 30/04/2024 09:02

@sockarefootwear I hope you told him to F OFF and do his own washing!

I really, really wanted to but sadly I knew that he would just have taken it home and complained about how busy he was etc until his wife (my ill friend) dragged herself out of her sick bed to do it.

This same man discovered that his wife had been shopping at Aldi and told her that he would 'allow' her to continue doing so but she must use Waitrose bags for life to get her shopping in from the car so that the neighbours wouldn't know. On another occasion I was looking after his their DC at my house whilst his wife got some rest. The agreement was that he would collect them on his way home from work. When he arrived he phoned to ask me to bring the DC and all their stuff (buggies, changing bags etc) out to him as it was too big a risk to leave his car unattended on my street whilst he came to the door. I didn't live in as posh an area as them but it was hardly the ghetto and his car was not even that nice. I really have no idea why my lovely, down to earth, friend is married to him

GingerPirate · 30/04/2024 11:59

My dear husband. 😂
We are very fortunate.
I bought a cool winter coat.
"Please return the Council Estate jacket".
It was one of those khaki coats with a fluffy faux fur collar, not cheap.
🥴

TorroFerney · 30/04/2024 12:01

NeverEnoughPants · 30/04/2024 09:53

A woman talking about her school holiday when she was thirteen. She was on a ferry back from France, and their food was served on a plastic tray, and her drink in a plastic cup.

'I couldn't wait to get back home to get a proper cup of tea in a bone china cup'.

see that's not snobby - that's like saying I can't wait to get back to my own bed.

JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 12:03

Emeraldsrock · 30/04/2024 10:46

A guy I was seeing from St Albans in my early twenties can to visit me in my northern Lancashire town. He came out to dinner with a group of friends. I remember after him telling me he was shocked that everyone had good jobs and were buying their first homes as talking about the nice holidays they were going on. Yes we don’t all work downt’pit.

I remember being lectured about how she couldn't possibly live in the North, away from the culture etc of London. When asked what she'd been to recently she whined about how expensive it all was and she couldn't afford it. This was to people who regularly hopped on the train to London, had a couple of night, saw whatever was on then went back to the cobbles and their tin bath!

MsLuxLisbon · 30/04/2024 12:05

GingerPirate · 30/04/2024 11:59

My dear husband. 😂
We are very fortunate.
I bought a cool winter coat.
"Please return the Council Estate jacket".
It was one of those khaki coats with a fluffy faux fur collar, not cheap.
🥴

I hate to say it, but he has a point.

GingerPirate · 30/04/2024 12:06

MsLuxLisbon · 30/04/2024 12:05

I hate to say it, but he has a point.

That's interesting, 😊 it was a long time ago!

Katiesaidthat · 30/04/2024 12:07

StarlightLime · 29/04/2024 22:00

Don't get this one. What was the issue?

I think the point was kids with posh accents imitating cockney or working class accents..

Squish12 · 30/04/2024 12:09

sockarefootwear · 29/04/2024 18:26

A friend was unwell and stressing about keeping on top of the washing for her DC so I offered to do a few loads for her. Her DH insisted that I use the washing powder that he sent. This is fair enough, I would have done the same as I have allergies and some brands make me itch. But he loudly said that I must use his powder and particularly not any own brand powder because he didn't want his family to 'smell of poor people'.

That's hilarious lol

JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 12:10

Saladcreamdreams · 30/04/2024 11:44

"CHRISTMAS WAS RUINED THE MOMENT YOU GOT THE CHEAP CRACKERS FROM MARKS' "

still makes me howl

Reminds me of The Good Life when Christmas was ruined when Harrods or Fortnum and Mason didn't deliver their lunch!

Temushopper · 30/04/2024 12:11

NonPlayerCharacter · 30/04/2024 06:23

They weren't concerned about quality, at least not as a standalone thing. It had to be high quality and objectively high value, with the "high" of having spent a lot on it. It's a very real sales psychology phenomenon and talented salespeople work with it. When I got my first decently paid role, I decided to buy myself something completely indulgent (jewellery) and I absolutely wanted it to cost a certain amount. I can't remember all the details of my search but I don't think I'd have bought anything in the sale; I wanted to feel indulgent and spendy. And I still have it and love it.

I don’t really get it even if it’s clearly a thing but it would be weird if everyone was excited about exactly the same things. I’m always really pleased to find something second hand or reduced. I will happily pay more for something better quality or more durable but not for the sake of it. I remember being super happy having found a sofa that perfectly fitted the bill for our living room for 1/2 of the budget I had in mind as it was ex display. I still love it years later and it’s definitely the same sofa it would have been if bought brand new after doing service in a busy family home. I think it’s mainly as given a choice I’d almost always save on things to spend more on experiences. What I saved on the sofa funded a week in a nice holiday cottage for us and my parents. What I saved by getting a £52.50 wedding dress we spent on extra activities and eating out some amazing places on our honeymoon. It was still a lovely dress and it had originally been £350 (in the 00s). It was just end of line and they’d whacked 85% off the last few left and it was really pretty. I dyed it navy blue after the wedding and wore it a few times as a ball dress before passing it on for someone to make into a Halloween costume.
I’d get the same kick from booking into business class for a flight or buying really good seats for a concert or the theatre and I suppose that’s a bit the same as practically you travel to same place/see same thing but just experience it differently.

bakewellbride · 30/04/2024 12:13

A work colleague who is used to travelling business class all the time but once had to book economy. Jokily said she would 'have to slum it in economy class'

JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 12:16

FourSteeples · 30/04/2024 11:53

This is a bit silly. I mean, wealth is also ‘totally normal’, and ‘splosh and nosh’ sounds cringingly LMC aspirational if anything.

I'm wondering if the friend married someone connected with Red Bull and she then morphed into a country lady!

Mothership4two · 30/04/2024 12:17

Wasn't said out loud but implied. We were going to have a school lesson where as a class we looked through a range of newspapers and followed the same stories in all the newpapers to see the differences in how it was reported from their various perspectives and politics. The head abruptly stepped in and cancelled the lesson without explanation (to us). The teacher said the head didn't want 'certain types of newpapers' (tabloids) being brought into the school - presumably they were too 'common' for our private school. We all found it a bit baffling at the time. With hindsight I imagine he was worried about parents' reactions to us studying tabloids.

Animatic · 30/04/2024 12:17

LLMn · 29/04/2024 21:33

Highly selective private? Usually private takes anyone who is silly enough to pay 30K for boarding.

is this an example of reverse snobbery or what?

JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 12:20

MsLuxLisbon · 30/04/2024 12:05

I hate to say it, but he has a point.

I remember my husband trying on a jacket in Holt, a posh bit of North Norfolk, and I told him to take it off, it looked like something Liam Gallagher would strut around in!

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