What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

I was at a wedding back in 1994 between a doctor and a nurse. About six of us were staying in their house. Most of the guests were doctors.

The morning after the bride (a nurse) was cooking a fried breakfast for all the guests and one of the female doctors said "I can't believe he's marrying a nobody".

Everyone sniggered but I was so shocked that this poor woman who was stuck in the kitchen cooking for 14 people was being referred to like this.

I broke up with my bf soon after, for different reasons but, a decade later, a mutual friend told me that they were really hurt that I'd just dumped them when I got a new boyfriend.

Well go figure!

Another one!!

About 35 years ago my Auntie came over from abroad for her 50th birthday and we had a big party, with several friends she'd not seen since she left England at age 20. One friend had since gone posh, changed the pronunciation of her name, very like Hyacinth Bucket, and was having her husband show off by letting the children go outside to sit in his Rolls Royce. They were proper lauding it about, showing off, and said to my 5yr old brother "Enjoy it sonny, it's not like you'll ever get to sit in a car like this again" and out of the mouth of babes he piped up all cheerful "Yes, and I've sat in a bin-motor too". 🤣🤣🤣 Snotty Mr & Mrs Bucket were spluttering away incensed at how they'd innocently been put in their place by a 5yr old without a care in the world.

Our culture isn't your costume, WWC edition?

I got it, and that is a very good way of putting it.

At the elite private girls' school where I was teaching, I heard one of the Matrons, a Methodist deaconess, say to the girls waiting in the dining hall queue: "Don't stand like that with your arms crossed, Felicity, you look like a state school girl."

My friend's future son in law to my friend:

'Oh, I've never known anyone who had a chip pan before'

Thats made me remember a good friend telling me she’d never shop in Aldi or Lidl she’d rather starve than be seen in one of ‘those shops’.

One Sunday morning early, there she was. All her friends had kids doing sports matches on Sundays so she thought she wouldn’t be found out. She actually hid from my husband when he saw her

I'd feel the same too.

If you pay a lot of money for a house you want it to be a lovely house in a nice area. Council estates generally affect how an area is perceived in a negative way so proximity to them is generally not seen as positive in terms of house value.

In the second scenario it's not that she wouldn't want her children to be friends with the council house children, it's that if there are a higher proportion of those children in the class there are likely to be more children whose parents aren't interested in education, more low achievers, more children with SEN, more behavioural and disciplinary problems, all of which mean that the teacher has to spend more time dealing with those things which can disrupt the whole class and less time getting on with teaching the children.
That's one of the reasons house prices are so much higher in catchment areas where there are fewer children from that type of background.

Everyone I know would prefer their children went to a school with a lower rather than higher number of children living on council estates. If that makes me a snob, so be it, I couldn't care less. I find snob is used as a derogatory word for people that are trying to make a better life or have aspirations for their children to have a better life, both of which are positive attitudes which should be applauded.

Well my kids went to a 'posh' primary school and then an elite grammar school, if that makes you feel better!!!

However, when DH and I went to deliver DC2 to halls in Leeds University, we heard one student bray, "Oh I think we are pretty much all from the Home Counties!" DC was not from the Home Counties. I just thought, WTF have I left my child to!!

This was years ago when I worked in one particular bank branch. It was December and the usual number of calendars had arrived. The manager informed the cashiers to be careful who they gave them out to and make sure they didn't give any to the riff raff.
Same manager had a rule that during the summer when it was hot that a cashier could only take their jacket off if all the cashiers were doing it. And God forbid if one rolled up their sleeves as that was common. BTW most cashiers were male with a few exceptions.

Presumably you are aware that the chances of the people you are so desperate to avoid are actually very unlikely to be in the homes that you think are social housing?

It was very interesting when our LA did work on their housing stock in that it made it very very obvious which houses were still "council". Less than a third were actually done, because the rest were something like 70% privately owned and 30% privately rented. There was a whole thing about it in the local paper.

So those horrible underclass people are not in fact living on "The Estate", but more likely to be in private rentals or temporary accomodation and .....this is important YOU WONT KNOW WHO THEY ARE OR WHERE THEY ARE. Many of them will be in rentals on the posh estates that so many like you congratulate themselves for buying into. My sister lives around the corner from a new build estate that was very much touted as des res. There is a family on there that cause no end of problems, violence, drug dealing etc and there is nothing that can be done as they are owners. 25% of the homes are social housing (part of the agreement for planning permission) and they cant get out quick enough because of this family.

Our council estate and most built in the 60s that are houses rather than flats, are better built and insulated, bigger and have more garden. I would rather live in one of those than the crappy thrown up new builds next door.

But you know what? I hope you stay in your little enclave of smug ignorance, because I do not want my children mixing with the likes of yours.

If the proximity of a house to a council estate affects its value, won't it also mean you have to pay less for it?

Yes but.....COUNCIL CHILDREN!!!!!! Surely avoiding them HAS to be worth the extra 200k?!

ETA: Yes I am taking the piss. I wouldnt think that it needed pointing out but on reflection, there are some on this thread who are probably too thick to realise that ironically, it wont be those born, brought up or living on a "Council Estate".

A bit like Saltburn? 😉😁

😂

You are a snob, and it's really nothing to be proud of

Brilliant!

Agreed. I’ve just pulled my daughter out of one because it’s so toxic

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US Navy wife here. Former.

Years ago, they sent my husband to the Naval War College in Newport, Rhode Island. My husband was an officer, a Commander.
We were invited to a party at the Admiral’s house. Fancy champagne and cocktails were served, and fancy hors d’oeuvres.
I saw a group of young men and their wives/girlfriends sitting outside and stepped outside to say hello - they were drinking beer. They were very nice and friendly.
When my husband found me, he was horrified I had been talking to the enlisted men and scolded me that it “simply isn’t done.”
The enlisted people weren’t allowed inside.
I was a newlywed, and I can tell you right now, I never fit in.
I lasted 10 years, but I was always an outsider.
I don’t get it - and I’m thrilled I don’t get it.

There’s a Waitrose in the outskirts of Hull

I was being driven by a colleague and we went past a state school. She didn’t slow down for the school zone speed limit and I pointed it out.

She said she never bothered to slow down outside state schools “because their parents let them run wild and they are much more street smart than private school kids”

This actually happened.

A friend once said that she ‘mistakenly’ put double-barrelled surnames on her children’s birth certificates because she ‘mistakenly’ thought that her dh’s middle name was the first part of his surname (even though she’d married him and NOT taken his middle name as the first part of HER surname 😵‍💫) when I probed the obvious error on her part she quickly brushed it away. It still makes me cringe for her years later 🫣

my mum said “Your neice (my brothers kid) has a golden standard of life with a big house and two parents and doting grandparents”

I am a single parent living in a two bed flat with a child. It’s my flat and my mum lives with me because of a breakdown in her marriage. I have never heard something so snobbish hurtful and ridiculous.

That’s appalling! I seriously hope you chastised her for that. Absolute bellend.