to be slightly annoyed, that whenever my DH is off work ie holidays, that I have to get up with the children?

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He's in bed now and when I go up in a minute with a cup of tea for him and suggest he takes DD to school, he will be annoyed with me, even though I will have done the whole morning routine ie breakfast, lunchboxes, sch uniform, fight to get them dressed blah blah blah. Can't find bl anything as house in dissaray due to new kichen going in and other rooms in chaos.

Background info- i'm off to work only for a couple of hrs cleaning but big house and he will be continuing to fit our new kitchen in.

Really haven't got time to even post this so late now anyway

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YANBU.

Dp would love to take dd2 to school - but as he is a teacher, he is off at the same time that the kids are so he can't.

He is quite happy, however, to stay in bed till several hours after I have got up with the kids though which irritates me.

The reasonable part of my brain, though, does tell me that he was up till 1 in the morning marking books and he has been working throughout the entire Easter holiday so just because he hasn't been going to work doesn't mean he isn't working but would it kill him to let me stay in bed once?

I think YAB a bit U - it's a day off. They're quite precious.

if my dp is off work i always let him sleep as his days are harder than mine even if i am ruched off my feet always find time to watch afternoon film or jeremy kyle lol

and then i take him cup of coffee never expect him to do it in return i do it because i want to do it for him

what would annoy me if he had week off and never done anything but i would suggest that you take it in turns to sleep in

men seemed to need to be asked to do things but not because they dont want to they just leave us to do what we do best and dont realise sometimes we want help unless asked

fuck that for a laugh...he should be doing 50%.

When dh is on holiday next week he'll be getting the children ready. If he wants a lie in can go back to bed later. Will also be leaving him a list of chores to do.

i have never ever ever ever had a lie in. Ds is 2.2 years. Count yourselves lucky

YANBU. Same in here, I get the early mornings, and late nights.

If I take dh a brew, ds often sneaks in and drinks it

my dp does every saturday morning and I think its the only thing that gets me through the week sometimes. he does no nights though as just doesn't wake sleeps ina coma

Blimey. DH always gets up first, unless he is ill. Weekdays, weekends, holidays... He gets breakfast too. And brings me a cup of tea. Unless he's making waffles, when I prefer coffee

absolutely YANBU. i have worked full time for ten years and am having acouple of years break, and i can safely say that being at home with the children is the hardest job ive ever had and i managed a team of people working with heroin and cocaine addicts. That was a walk in the park compared to this. So any man who gets to escape domestic hell and be a grown up all day every day should certainly take his daughter to school at the very least, and he should want to!! Sorry bit of a rant. hello!

has your dh got a brother fallen!?

Is it not a fairer to try to take it in turns as much as is feasibly possible? Dh usually does Sat am and I do Sun. I'm a crap sleeper so am usually spent by Friday and the thought of an extra hour or 2 on Saturday keeps me sane.

Never in bed past 9am though too used to getting up now!

Fairer? Probably. But I am not a morning person and dh is. If we're both happy with the arrangement, then fairness doesn't really come into it. And we are.

But the OP isn't, so that is different.

Blimey branflake - it's a bit much to say days off are 'precious!' They are precious to OP too - or prob would be if she had one!
my Dh gets up earlier than me most days and he's in bed later, and I still get a lie-in either saturday or sunday. He will happily take the dc to school, after I've got up and done lunchboxes/breakfast/uniform etc, if he has a day off - which is not often.

i would love a lie in. Anyone help!?

WHAT THE HELL IS A DAY OFF??????

Having spent 3 months doing the 'house-husband' bit before admitting that it's too hard and going back to work. As a result, I stay in bed on DH's days off, he gets up with GS and cleans the house before I get up. Some days I get brekkie in bed. Other days, it's on the table as I walk into the kitchen. He also does the majority of the cooking on his days off.

On the days he does work, he gets up with GS feeds him, sorts any laundry and does the fire (coal fire in winter) before waking me as he's about to leave for work. I do all the other stuff in the daytime. His food is on the table as he walks in - then he takes over, does the dishes, fire again, bath's and beds GS after spending a bit of time with him.

don't know if i'd call 100% of caring for DD 'some things'....

But anniemac you already have a job no? Why is it your job to do 100% caring for your dd too?

I agree with cat64 (no relation btw!)YABU - I work very long hours and am often called to phone or need to work online if soemthign major is kickign off connected with work on Saturdays and Sundays. I really need some recovery time sometimes. as it is I spend every second I'm not involved at or with work in trying to focus on my 2 dss.
As cat64 says, this chap is fitting the new kitchen as part of his precious annual leave. I think I'd appreciate a slow and steady getting up time if I were him. He sounds great!