To not invite my friend and her DDs to my house

[Unreasonableone]

I have a very close friend of 10years+.
We see each other once every few months in her house or mine.
I feel terrible to say this, but I do not like her DDs (6 and 4). When they come round, the girls purposefully bang the door, radiator and furniture for attention. They scream and shout to interrupt our conversation as well.
I gently told girls not to bang the radiator as it's dangerous but they didn't listen. I think this is a norm for my friend as she has never mentioned anything to her DDs.

Also I serve lunch when they visit me, however her DDs are fussy eaters and it stresses me out to think what to cook every time. I have invited them numerous times over the several years. The only thing her DDs had was a bit of cucumber and tomato. They even didn't eat Margherita pizza or simple tomato pasta. Then they soon start moaning that they are hungry.

Over the years I have reached to the point that I do not want to invite them to my house ever.

Last time I went to her house and it is my turn to invite her again.
I have suggested my friend to meet outside for lunch or just to have "adult only time" in my house, but she says it is impossible to leave kids as her partner is not very supportive to look after girls. She also has declined the idea to meet outside as "it is quite difficult and tiring to take both girls outside at the moment".

Am I being unreasonable to think that I really don't want them to come to my house, and I even can't be bothered to see my friend if her DDs are with her?

See her one evening. She can put her kids to bed then partner can look after them, or get a reliable babysitter.

I agree with going to hers but It’s quite an odd comment about how difficult it’s to take them both somewhere outside. It shouldn’t be.

I'd tell her the truth,

Another thread where lurking underneath the main headline there is a useless man... And even more depressingly, a couple of girls growing up in a household where the model is useless man and doormat mother. Sigh.

The suggestions are fine. It was the comment implying that the OP must dislike children that was passive-aggressive.

@Unreasonableone go somewhere with her and the children. Maybe a park or playground. Go do something with them. A zoo? A national trust place you could walk around and they can run?

The children would probably love it and you and your friend can chat.

She said the op disliked children that’s a bit of a stretch….