For context, my husband and I have been married for just over a year, have a 10 month old baby and he has two children from previous relationship that we see EOW.
I wasn't the other woman but his ex and family think that i was because I knew of DH before we got together but we weren't close or anything. Anyway, the family of the ex have given us dogs abuse over the years - name calling, social media slandering, inappropriate texts, prank calling, corning my DH in shops and loudly trying to discuss our business. They've been a nightmare. I can hand on heart say we haven't retaliated or reciprocated because it frightens me to be brutally honest (was brought up in a lot of conflict so it makes my stomach turn). I'm not on social media and i try to avoid conflict at all costs.
Anyway, the two step children often carry stories back and forth, fair enough, they're children at the end of the day and they play their parents off against each other - again, fair enough. However, for this reason coupled with the inappropriate behaviour to date by ex's family we tend to tread carefully if the children mention ex's family.
This is where I could be being unreasonable. there's been a few occasions where DH has asked about the family, where they're going out to, what are they doing etc? I told him this isn't appropriate and we should just focus on ourselves, be polite to the children when they talk about ex's family but don't elaborate if that makes sense.
DH has done it a couple of times now and I lost my rag yesterday after he done it again. Before anyone says i'm being possessive or anything like that he is friendly with another ex's brother because they were friends before that and I have absolutely no issue with that whatsoever, it's just this particular family.
I am waiting (and most likely will be diagnosed with) on a BPD diagnosis so i don't know if I'm being warped or I'm being reasonable to be annoyed.
Please no sarcasm or hate please, head's a bit fragile at the minute.