Stupid family chat group

[whatwhat01]

So partners family & family made a what's app chat with everyone in it apart from me

Partner seems not to have a problem with it

Shall I be fuming? Well I did 2 years ago when I found out & I am angry again

Plan is never to count myself as part of their family & I never did anyway but now I will not hide it say they are taking family picture, I will opt out

AIBU?

You don't get on with them why would they create a group with you in it?

Its for them to chat

I would be grateful tbh.

You sound as bad as each other.

Why do ppl say these really pointless comments , as if its so odd op wouldn't be offended. The sisters don't talk to her, that's wrong. She's a family member too, why can't she be included? Why can't op expect to be included. I never liked my sil (bils wife) , we didn't speak much but i always included her in a grp chat or plans because she's a family member, that's what grown ups do.

It's not a pointless comment.
As several of us have already said, we wouldn't expect, or want to be in any chat groups with people we don't get on with. That is a pretty normal way to feel, I'd have thought.

It sounds like they don't like you 😕 have you never got along with your DPs sisters? If you don't get along with them, not sure why you'd want to be in a WhatsApp group with them? I'd be glad that you don't have to interact with his family much and let him get on with it!

My DH doesn’t get in with my family at all. He has no desire whatsoever to be in a family WhatsApp group with them. I’m struggling to see why you don’t feel the same.

hmm. 3 sisters have a group chat. They added their partners and their brother. I do sort of get it

are you all married?

You don’t like them.

They don’t like you.

Why in god’s name would you want to be in their family gossip group when you don’t get on and you don’t chat? WhatsApp chats are often informally set up, people get added ad hoc and it’s not like issuing a formal invitation.

It would be different if you all got on tolerably well and useful information was being shared, say about Christmas plans or requests for birthday gifts. But a general family chat, when you don’t talk anyway?

Bullet dodged.

@Moonlane
That's exactly my point and how I feel

We don't talk or chat but very civil when we see & to be honest the pretence is exhausting & we have never had a confrontation.

Yes we don't talk etc but leaving me out was intentional & I see it as their own way to say we don't want you.

Y do I wanna be in group chat with people I don't get along with? Some are saying, I don't wanna be in a group chat with them because I would have archived it with very little interaction anyway. But the point is i am not exactly jumping for joy for not being added.