To divide and conquer on a weekend

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Just wondered whether you do everything as a family at a weekend / BH / in the holidays, or whether you divide and conquer most of the time? We both work FT and have a fairly large house and garden which needs constant attention (plus all the usual washing / tidying / admin etc). We tend to divide and conquer - one of us takes the children and the other sorts other stuff. I’ve noticed we’re in the minority in our group of friends - most families do most things together. Wondering if we’re a bit unusual. I’d say it’s 80/20 divide and conquer.

We typically divide and conquer, it’s just more efficient and the kids benefit because dh and I will often do different things with them. We are extremely equal parents, so we each love and are confident in spending time with our kids without a partner there. We also often divide the kids - so I might take dd to the theatre, dh might take dc bowling. Or whatever.

Having said that i do love family days out! I’m extremely lucky I have a dh who will suggest and organise stuff, so the burden doesn’t fall solely on me. I often wonder if the families that do everything together have a useless dh who can’t be arsed to organise anything himself, and just tags along with whatever mum has arranged. Would be interested to know actually.

We divide and conquer. Having a cleaner who irons, changes beds too helps enormously.

Definitely divide and conquer. Sometimes one of us with have both kids so the other can actually get some stuff done, and sometimes we take a child each. Occasionally we talk to each other 😂

Same. I really like when we take one child each. We generally give the other the opportunity to go to the gym etc alone too.

We like days out so we generally spend weekends as a family. DH works at the office Mon-Fri and DD1 is at school so we really value coming together at weekends. It also allows the dcs to spend time doing the parts of activities they like with one parent, eg we went to soft play and swimming today where they spent time in different zones with one parent, which would be impossible to supervise if just one parent took them.

We tend to get chores and errands done after bedtime so weekends are focused on leisure. We don't have alone time for adults at the weekends - we've considered it but it would stop us being able to do longer days out as it often takes all day to travel and do all the activities there.