Compliment or not?

[Goldiex]

If a man said

'Ive been with some REALLY beautiful women, but I just love you and prefer you'

Is that rude? I cant work out if i should pissed off or not.

For context im not ugly. Maybe not stunning but always been told Im pretty and I know i have a good figure. It felt like an attempt to knock my confidence? Or was it, not matter how you look, i love you?

Classic negging - big red flag

@ghostyslovesheets ffs i thought so.

Being extremely charitable you could assume it was a very clumsy compliment but really it sounds like classic begging as the PP said.

Back-handed maybe. And yes, as PP says, negging is the modern version of that.

I could just be cyclical but it sounds manipulative, I'd watch out.

New boyfriend? If you get a compliment that seems to good to be true, it's probably lovebombing. Plus the backhanded compliment isn't genuine, you wouldn't say that to someone you care about.

If you don't react to this (or even take it as a compliment) he knows your possibly vulenerable/low self esteem and so easy to take advantage of.

At the end of the day, only you know if it's clumsy wording or worse.

It's not a compliment. It's negging. If you've never had any other sniff of a red flag, then you might chalk it up to experience, and as MrsTerryPratchett says, see it as a very clumsy compliment...but be wary now.

I'd suspect negging. Obviously I don't know this man at all so my opinion is totally surface...but yeah, I reckon he knows that's a disarming comment to make to a woman.

I think you're supposed to feel grateful that he can 'do better' but will settle for you.
I don't like it.

It’s not a compliment. It has a “know your place in my sexual history and feel honoured” vibe.

Reply: “I’ve been with some truly well-endowed men, but you really know how to make the most of what little god gave you.”

yup, not a compliment.

@PeppaPigIsQAnon know your place in my sexual history and feel honoured” vibe. Thats exactly how i feel 😔

Negging

It's very likely you are the most attractive person he's been with

And to add...yes, it might also be a lie. Ugh.

2 things to consider : is English his first language? If not then there might be margin for error snd 2, how bright is he? Sometimes people don't understand the relevance or power of words.

More red flags than a Communist parade.

As PP have said, classic negging.