WIBTA? My partner has several nieces (teens) and nephews (late teens, early twenties). The nieces bar one have always been really quite rude to me and to my husband, their uncle also.
When they've come over to visit us at our house they'd waltz in without saying hello, walking around the house and e.g. playing with water in the bathrooms with a wooden floor even when I told them not to. Often they completely ignore both of us (one time the whole family came to visit as my father was visiting and none of the nieces said hello to him or us). They won't eat food that we make and say our food's gross (one of them found a slightly off lemon in a fruit bowl once and since then all our food is disgusting). They've told me I wear 'weird clothes' (as in, colourful) and I've often seen them whispering/giggling to each other whilst looking at me. They've told me husband he's only a teacher because he wasn't smarter to do anything else. Theyve also said to him that he could never be a parent, because it would be too hard for him. These girls are all under 18 - husband has never really done anything to them, I've been ignoring them for a few years because I don't tolerate b*shit. Their parents don't reprimand them (and we suspect that half of what the nieces say/think comes from the parents anyhow), they usually just say something along the lines of 'they are just kids' or don't remember anything when we bring up previous incidents. I am from a different ethnicity than the rest of the family and they are not the most wordly bunch anyhow...it often feels like that a lot of the SILs and children's animosity toward me/my husband is due to the fact that we ar slightly 'unconventional' and do things 'their way'. There is a strong sense that the parents discuss my partner and I in a negagive light in front of their children....so most of the above might not be tbe kids fault at all. I feel sorry for my partner that he doesn't have much of a relationship with the girls (he gets on fine with his nephews). We had a good relationship with the youngest niece but religious SIL has not allowed us to see her much as she has gotten more religious and we are non-religious.
We are expecting a child and I imagine that the sisters will want to come with their brood. I will be tired and vulnerable and I am already imagining how pissed off I'm going to get if they ignore me/us and/or are rude. I am thinking of sending text to their parents letting them know that if the nieces can't even say hello to me and my husband they are not welcome. WIBTA?
EDIT: no, I am not a fan of my SILs either.