To give my wedding & eternity ring to the teens when I'm not divorced.

[Ringbearer]

25 years married, DH is not the celebrating kind. I have my wedding ring (not a plain band) and a matching ring I got made and paid for after having the kids. I don't wear either on my fat fingers so they sit in a box.
I have very few other bits, nothing as valuable.
I don't feel much attachment to any of it only a bit of sadness that it wasn't accompanied by grand emotional words.

Should I pass them on to my DDs, 20 & 17 now or wait till they are a bit older.

YABU yes, madness & hurtful to give to teens
YANBU let the girls enjoy the sparkles now

They'll treasure it more when you're dead so I'd save it

This is going to sound weird but passing things down before you're dead seems like an invitation to the grim reaper to me.

Why would you think you should give them now? It wouldn’t occur to me to give them away instead of getting them resized.

Do you not wear them because they no longer fit?

I’d wait till they’re older. At that age, I’d probably have sold them and bought something totally transitory like a new stereo, then utterly regretted it years later

How would you feel if they sold them?

Giving them away to your daughters now is really inappropriate. Are you wanting to have a dig at your husband by doing this? It doesn't appear you are all that happy with your husband.

Will they even fit? Bands of eternity rings often can’t be resized so might just sit in their drawers instead.

Do you think that this thought is more to do with expressing - via a gesture - that the rings do not represent the love you would have wanted? It could look like a passive aggressive signal to your husband and your kids might see it like that too?

I’d get them made bigger and wear them now . Then your girls will inherit rings they remember you wearing. I have two of my mother-in-law’s, I cherish them.

Cash converters!

I wouldn't have appreciated it at that age. If wait either until a major moment- marriage, grandchild etc or leave them to them

It sounds more like you're trying to punish your husband for not saying the right "grand emotional words", than thinking about making a nice gift to your children. The point you're obviously trying to make is that your rings are meaningless to you because you husband didn't/ isn't saying the right things. Its probably best to address that problem rather than passive-aggressively giving your rings away to make a point!

Get them resized? If not I wouldn't give them now they'll be treasured much more by adult children later on in their life

Well if they're just sitting in a box, someone may as well get some pleasure from them. They aren't being 'passed down', as such. More like re-purposed.

Is this because it's your silver wedding anniversary and your husband hasn't done anything to celebrate it?

If my mum gave me her rings now, (she doesn't wear them either but happily married), I couldn't help but wonder if she was dying, depressed or considering divorce!

Nothing of mine was accompanied by grand emotional words either come to think of it !

And if they sold them or pawned them or lost them? Would that be ok?

Wait until they are older. Too great a danger that they will be lost in insanely messy bedrooms (DD17 I am looking at you here), given to friends, something else. My mother gave me her wedding ring when she was dying. I treasure it. Not sure it would have survived a zillion student house moves had she given it to me when I was a teenager.

I think it's very inappropriate to give them away if you're still married. Why don't you get them resized so that you can wear them again? I've had many rings resized over the years - my local jeweller often does it whilst I wait and the cost is reasonable, although it obviously varies according to the metal.

I was going to say wait until theyre getting engaged and married and stuff, and offer to pass them along then. They’re not going to be appreciated now. Not even by the op it seems

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Have you told your husband how you feel. I know this is a bit out there, but would you consider renewing your vows where he’s have the opportunity to ‘put things right’ in your eyes. And then start wearing the rings?

I too think something has triggered some sadness/resentment/wishful thinking with regard to your husband/marraige.
Maybe try to drill down into that and work out what's to be done about it before actually giving away the physical embodiments of it.
Lots of us out here with long/short good/bad marriages to reflect with if you want.
That thread about 80% of us being in tolerating marriages might also be useful to show you the range of other people's relationships out there.