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Do I chase or let it be?

6 replies

Augustmama9 · 27/04/2024 18:56

Hi so I started to ‘hang out’ with a guy back in December and I say hang out because this guy made it very clear that’s all he wanted the first couple of weeks in and that’s fine and I knew what the situation was but he texted everyday and we hung out every weekend and then from Monday this week he has went radio silence, No texts nada! I work with them and even in work they have been very blank towards me but I’ve still kept it professional as it was before.

A few weeks ago they announced they were going away for a few days with a female friend and I won’t lie when I say I was a bit jealous but I kept my cool and never mentioned how it made me feel but im probably reading too much into it and thinking this could be linked to them going silent as we have had no disagreements or arguments, they have just switched up and it’s hurt my feelings. My question is.. I havent reached out either as I’m not one to chase and if someone switches up I tend to let them be and not confront them about it but should I reach out or let them be? I just don’t understand how someone can switch up so fast when we got on super well.

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MaltedMilk88 · 27/04/2024 18:57

Let it be, it's clear they aren't interested

LisaVanderpump1 · 27/04/2024 19:01

"If they like you, you'll know. If they don't, you'll be confused."

I totally understand your hurt, but I think I'd just let this one go and look for somebody else. Who knows if you confronted them if you'd even get the truth.

TerfinUSB · 27/04/2024 19:03

Never, ever chase. If they're interested they make time for you. Lick your wounds & move on

MrsO3 · 27/04/2024 19:04

Don’t chase! Leave it be

TiredBefuddledRose · 27/04/2024 19:04

He was clear from the start, you were a stop gap until someone he really wanted came along.
I know that sounds harsh but it's true, I've been where you are, let it go, don't give them another thought.

MyBreezyPombear · 27/04/2024 19:07

I'm sorry OP, he's not interested.

Sack him off and find someone who wants to spend time with you.

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