Residence order

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My marriage has ended while I'm in hospital. Our children are 12 and 8. I was their primary caregiver. Is there any way I can find out if my stbxh has applied for a residence order? The house is in his name. I'm not listed. He plans to go for full residency.

So sorry this is happening. Are you in for medical or mental health? Even if he has applied it’ll take a while to go to court and you will have chance to have your say

Thanks. I'm in a psychiatric unit. I don't have an address except the family home where the children will want to stay because all their animals are there. I'm on a waiting list for the women's refuge. My social worker has said that if he's applied for the order then I would have to abide by it but I don't know how to find out if he has. I would never do anything that would alarm or distress the children in any case but I can't work out how he can take everything like this. I was a really good mother.

You are a good mother. Not was.

I guess it depends on your mental health condition and treatment and whether he can validate a risk or harm to the kids. And if he does get full residency there should still be rights for you to have a relationship we're then.

Contact Womens aid and they can help with the legal side of things. Tel them everything.

I say this as someone who has been I. A refuge and psych hospital many years ago .

focus on what you need to do to get well enough to look after your children . Take the medication you need focus on moving forward . Getting somewhere for the children .

you can add yourself as an interested party on house . You are married so it’s a joint asset .

Once well enough you need to see a solicitor . Also making a police report about the Dv you have endured can be helpful