Boyfriend kisses gay friends on the lips

[Lilaclala]

My partner has a few gay friends that he's known for years. He met them all through a friend. I went on a night out with him and them recently and was quite taken aback to see him greet one of them with a peck on the lips and then later kissed the same man on the hand at the bar. He's a friendly jokey person in general but am I right in thinking this is a step too far and a bit unnecessary and inappropriate, especially in front of his partner?

Patrick Stewart kisses Ian McKellen on the lips, I think if you have a lot of gay friends you just adopt their ways — I hug friends who like to be hugged and not those who don’t. But if you don’t like it, tell him.

Do you genuinely think he's gay/bi? And wants to be with this bloke?
I kiss female friends hello on the lips, and sometimes male family members. I wouldn't kiss a male friend on the lips though, especially not in front of my partner. Not bc I'm trying to pretend I don't 'fancy' them, just bc it can look the wrong way. I'd say either there's suspicion he's cheating or there isn't, his sexuality isn't really the issue.

https://youtube.com/shorts/gLrku1qTjrM

How long have you been together?

I’d dump my partner if he kissed friends on the lips, regardless of their sex or sexuality.

I've never known anyone do this, all through uni, going out with rugby guys. Maybe it's just something he does but I'd be embarrassed as his GF and I think I'd just end it and move on.

Hmmm… I think it depends. Has it happened more than once? My best friend is gay and he and DH get on like a house on fire. In a fit of excitement when very drunk at our engagement party my best friend grabbed DH face and gave him a big kiss on the lips. It literally wasn’t a big deal at all. DH wasn’t bothered, in fact one of his slightly backwards friends commented that he’d “have smacked him for it” and DH told him to grow up.
It was a one off though and they know each other very very well. Not sure how I’d feel about it if DH was instigated big smooches on lot’s of men I didn’t know though.

I doesn't have to be sexual i'm not sure straight men kiss others on the lips. Quite possible that he is bi but so what?

In all other ways he comes across as very stereotypically straight. He says he's just very confident in who he is. I just wonder why he needs to, especially as he was the one who initiated it. A friendly hug would have been more appropriate. I was right next to him. I've just never seen behaviour like this before from a straight man. It's almost like he flirts with them and enjoys the attention

2 years

Would he kiss a very unattractive female on the lips by way of a greeting?

OP, he’s gay or bi, and hiding in plain sight - don’t wait to stumble across his search history just get rid

You're entirely at liberty to not kiss your child on the lips, but plenty of people think it's perfectly normal behaviour.
e.g., Victoria Beckham apparently, and lots (though by no means all, I grant you) of the posters on the numerous mumsnet threads there have been on this very subject.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/shortcuts/2016/jul/13/kissing-your-child-on-the-lips-is-perfectly-acceptable
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3873214-do-you-kiss-your-kids-on-the-lips

I agree with the idea that he trying to be ultra inclusive by actively embodying the mannerisms of gay friends

Why is it a problem if he is bi though?

It just sounds a bit attention seeking to me, I wouldn’t find it disrespectful, but I’d be cringing.

Some of us don’t want to date someone who is bisexual. I wouldn’t.

Personal preference is allowed when dating.

Nope. I wouldn’t want to be with a man who kissed men on the lips. That’s not a heterosexual man. (Unless it’s a very close family member)

It’s also disrespectful to you.

@wombat15 I wouldn’t want to date someone bisexual. Lots of us seem to feel the same.

I appreciate that personal preference is allowed but people are telling OP to LTB if he bisexual as if that is a something terrible rather than personal preference.

And?

I would dump a man if I found out he was bisexual. It’s not terrible but I want my partner to be straight not bi.

Would you say this is dump worthy behaviour?

Personally I'd find some of the homophobia on this thread more dump worthy behaviour

Ok.. how would you have felt if, in a fit of excitement your husband grabbed your best friend and gave him a big kiss on the lips? There's a big difference.

We aren't talking about your preferences though. Why you you telling someone else to LTB just because they have a characteristic you don't want in a partner?

Lipkissing is how gay guys greet each other in safe spaces.

Banter it ain’t.

Your boyfriend is gay or bi. It's vvvv unusual for a straight man to kiss another man on the lips.