Please put names on wedding invites!

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The new way of doing wedding invitations seems to be email out a link to a website which you click on to RSVP.
Fine.

However the last few I've received haven't had "Dear " so I don't know who is invited or who I am RSVPing for!

I've received one today where to rsvp you have to search for your name and click on it when it comes up in the search results. I already knew it was child free so haven't bothered searching for my kids' names but have just spent 10 mins searching for my DH's name (in every spelling iteration, shortening/lengthening of it can think of). Finally I've come to the conclusion he isn't invited (which is fine, it's their wedding, even if all 8 of your family came to mine a few years ago...)

Anyway the point is, wouldn't it be a lot easier for everyone if you had written the invitee's names on the invitation!

That sounds really annoying. And impersonal. Wedding websites with a place for info to go are helpful but having to find yourself in a list is weird.

We were careful twrite e everyone's names on the invitations. One couple who had a 18 month old at the time said how much they appreciated that their invitation was to "Mark, Jenny and Sophia" rather than just "Mark, Jenny and family" or even just "Mark and Jenny" with no clarification so they had no idea if Sophia was invited or not. Wouldn't cross my mind not to be nice and clear and write everyone's names.

For one couple who were expecting their first child who would be about 9 weeks by the wedding we invited "James, Lauren and bump" to be nice and clear that the baby was invited.

Is this a thing? I've had loads of invites in the last year and all of them have been a written invite either given in person or sent to me which has included our names? We've had the option of replying via post or text but not an email with a website RSVP link?

Ask them if your DH is invited.

We have had a few evening invite in the last year that were just postcards - handed to either me or DH, so not clear at all if one or both.

Totally agree! Had a digital invitation for a good friend’s wedding a couple of years ago via WhatsApp with no names on it. I assumed kids were invited as there had been no indication that it was a childfree event so booked a more expensive family room at a nearby hotel. A couple of weeks beforehand for no reason I had the urge to check that they were invited- they weren’t. Imagine if I hadn’t checked and we’d just turned up - so awkward!

If there are no names on the invite it just makes it uncomfortable for the invitee to have to ask if their other half/kids are invited and awkward for the bride/groom to have to say no! If it’s laid out on the invitation then that’s taken away.

We used a wedding website but it emailed an invitation to every guest individually (if we didn’t know plus ones email addresses or were inviting kids all invites went to the lead guest).

It’s a pretty basic feature so it’s weird that the sites your friebds have used don’t have that.

Never heard of invites like that. Only ever received an actual one.

I had that for DH's cousin and couldn't find DH's name under any spelling, but found myself, so I would ask the couple.