Kids don’t want to stay at my house..separation

[Bloodyfreezinng]

Me and ex split up a month ago (married 3 DC’s) he’s currently staying with his brother.

They just want to stay there don’t seem interested in coming to stay with me. I think they see it as a holiday there.

Im bored and lonely! Youngest dc comes home to stay but older two aren’t interested.

Makes me feel shit but I don’t know what to do.

I’m sorry that sounds difficult.

Is there a reason the older two wouldn’t want to see you, issues surrounding the split maybe?

Otherwise, It is early days, I am sure the novelty will wear off soon.

How old are they

Their ages will inform to a large extent the advice given.

If you feel up to sharing, it might be useful to know the ages of your 3 DCs.

My only advice is, the seperation is very recent and it could be the DCs are confused, getting used to having 2 separate homes.

It could be where your ex is living is more exciting.

That's no reflection on you. It is just a new situation for the DC and they are figuring it all out, just like you are.

I completely understand why it's making you feel like shit, but give them time.

Is dad the 'fun' parent?

Are you in the family home or did you move out?

Why can they choose? No doubt dad is most fun asks less of them.

Well - WHY are they preferring to stay there?

What age are they, that's an important point in this discussion.

Also, is your ex a reliable caregiver or just the Disney dad? Are they fed, homework done, sleep in appropriate environments, at school on time etc? In which case, this becomes more complicated.

Are you at least seeing them even if you're not having them overnight? YOure still their mum, you should be engaged in their life?